Help I want my dad but I am scared to get hurt

Ok well my dad’s with his mom in a different state my parents are still together but hes there taking care off her I haven’t seen him for like 4 year’s I miss him allot and my mom gave me and my sister a chose to get a lg cell or have my dad come here for x-mis for two week’s of course I want him but I have abandonment prob’s cause of him and I don’t think I can lose him again I have all ready lost him twice in my life and all together I haven’t seen him for like 7 year’s and that’s a long time to be with out a dad and when he was here I wasn’t really with him even though I wanted him to be so much but any way’s I don’t think I can do that again what do I do I can’t lose him ?I mean if I don’t want him to come this time I can all ways see him sooner or later once my grandmother dies he has no reason to be with her so he will come back just it might take a while

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I don’t believe in god I’m not bashing on your religion or any thing just don’t believe in him and I need to speak to people not some one who can’t reply and if god is real he has no once of sorry for me

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I understand why he is gone I’m not dumb I know you didn’t say I was and you weren’t meaning it in a offensive way but I am just saying you know and I don’t want to go there and she cant have me there I but to much stress on her cause I have anger prob’s which is why I can’t go there cause I am in counseling

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HEY IM 13 N MY DAD LEFT when I WAS THREE MONTHS THEN I DIDNT SEE HIM AGEN TEILL I WAS 8 HE COME FOR ME ONCE A WEEK FOR THREE WEEKS and THEN HE DIDNT COME BACK I HAVNT SEEN HIM SINCE BUT I WUD LOVE TUU

SO GO FOR IT BE LUCKY YOU GOT THE CHANCE I AVNT ITS WOT you WONT you CNT SORT OUT your WORRIES UNTILL you TRY HOPE THIS HELPS X

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The best thing that I know of is to ask Jesus into your heart, and allow him to love you, the way you want to be loved. He can and he will, if you seek him, he can fill that vaccum in your life, and make you whole.

Many times, our human parents let us down, but, Jesus is a friend that sticks closer than a brother, and will never let you down.

His word says that when our earthly parents fail us, he will take us up.

you might want to check out this link…

needhim.org

God be with you.

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Just so I can make this clear my prob here is that I want to see him but am scared to cause I haven’t seen him in so long and hes only going to be here for 2 weeks and I don’t think I can have him just come here and then leave again every one is all ways leaving me and I don’t think I can deal with him leaving again emotionally I will totally brake down and with the way I am at that point I don’t know what I will do if he comes here he has to go back but I wouldn’t be able to let him

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He probably loves his mother very much and is sensitive to her needing him to care for her. He is also aware that you are being well taken care of by your mom.

Maybe you could arrange to go visit him and Grandma like during Christmas vacation, spring break, etc. I’m sure Grandma would appreciate seeing you and you might understand and accept his absence more.

        Simply a Rose to brighten your day,         And maybe lessen the cares in your way;         And also, too, to help you to know,         That in knowing you, many others grow!

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I meant put not but lol

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PLEASE HELP

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yea I am planing on talking to her about this but I wont be able to till Monday and that’s to long to wait and how about if she can’t help ?

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Could you speak to your counselor? I’m sure she could help you with your father leaving and all that. Just try to have faith in Heavenly father and Jesus. I’m sure things will turn out. I can’t imagine what it’s like to have a father leave for so long, but, when your father comes up to your house for the two weeks, ask him what he’s going to do after grandma parrishes? I don’t mean to say that in a cruel way but, he should be thinking about the family as well as continueing to care for grandma. Not that I don’t want her to die, I want things to go well for all of you. I would just speak to your counselor about this. She can help you out more as a professional. Good luck, and pray about this.

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