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Hi, I have a major problem! I hate my new in-laws like really hate them. My father in law is one of those people that thinks he’s rite all the time and no matter what I would be talking abot he would have done 1 beta or would have a better way of doin it. An nw that me and my husband have been together a while we plann to have a family but he puts me off because as it is he undermind and slags off my sister-in law about her parental skills. Does anyone have any ideas of how I could put this man in his place if he tries to to stuff with my kids that I donm’t like or should I just not go out to the house?? Help me please as I dn@t wana fall out with him.

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Answer #1

You should have a heart to heart conversation with your husband and tell him how his father is making you feel. It is really up to your husband to put his father in his place. Does your husband know how you feel, and how is father is coming across? This is a topic that your hubby should be having with his family, preferrably when they are alone so that they can iron out these difficulties. If you were to broach the subject with your father-in-law it could have a very bad outcome. If on the other hand your husband was to approach is own father, he could do it in a way that would let his father know that he has observed how you are being treated, and in that way you are kind of kept out of the conflict, so that it would not cause your in-laws to be able to blame you for the confrontation. I hope wish you the best of luck with everything! It can be very painful when there are problems with in-laws.

Answer #2

I agree with ramboe, your husband should bring the issue up with his father. He should tell him that you are his family now and that unless he wants to have limited time with the both of you he needs to respect your husbands decision for you as a wife. You’re father in-law may feel that you are both young and he may think he is helping by offering his advise and thinking he is right by doing so.

Just remember that your husband should handle this situation. If he is man enough to get married then he needs to be man enough to defend his wife and marriage. If I were you I would wait to start a family until you know that your husband will put your marriage ahead of his father. If not it could cause problems for you and your husband and marriage is hard enough without having a meddling in-law. I speak from experience.

Good luck with everything I hope you guys can work this out.

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