Controlling future mother in-law

um, YEAH!!!

yah, I think we need to do that. I feel run out of my home when she comes because she is so rude and blunt. se has negative oppinion for everything

I am sorry to say this…but the ball is in JASON’S court. Anything you say will be used against you. It is his mother and he needs to draw the line. If you try to confront her, I guarantee it will not end nicely. It is his mom, she is going to be a problem and it needs to stop now. If Jason tries to laugh it off, or says”that is just what she is like, ignore it”, RUN AWAY NOW. He will NEVER support you emotionally in your marriage if he can’t support you emotionally now. Do NOT marry into that mess unless he draws the line. She will NEVER stop otherwise.

Is there any way for you two to sit her down (it needs to be both of you so she sees that he’s backing you up) and get him to tell her that she cannot treat you in that manner and he will not tolerate it? He loves you and she may not like you but it is “our house” and in “our house” she cannot disrespect you in that way…

yah he pretty much tried to say that when he talked to her but she ended up hanging up on him. She won’t even allow us to express our opinions. all I know is that I feel like I can’t even function without resolving this and really, there is nothing I personaly can do…so I feel helpless because now she isn’t even answering her phone…she knows we are very upset. I don’t understand where someone finds the guts to do something like that!!! I would never treat someone like that ever…clearly we are two different people but that was uncalled for :(

If she is that controling then Jason would be her “little boy” and he needs to explain that he loves you and ya’ll are going to be together no matter what she thinks, maybe this alone that she is pushing him away. The reason why she probably is like that is because she feels treatened by you, you are taking her baby away. You need to tell him and he needs to do it, because all you need is your mother-in-law to hate and control your lifes together. He should be like you can change or never come around this may scare her into changing.

I hope everything works! && I hope I helped.

wow…you know, if she is so completely comfortable with openly criticizing you and completely invading your personal space, then…wow…you need to nip this in the bud. immediatly.

talk with her AND jason at the same time. if jason voices this, maybe she’ll get the point. I mean, because obviously jason is her world. maybe she’ll listen if she hears it coming from him. he needs to tell her that YOU are who he has chosen. that he loves YOU. he should also tell her how much YOU DO! and then you can be there echoing everything and telling her how much you care for her son. you guys also need to talk about how it is NOT appropriate for her to come into your home and put her nose where it doesn’t belong. (with more tact than I just did, lol!) if she doesn’t, than she can’t stay over. I don’t know…something like that.

I hope this helps sweetie…the best thing you can do it get everyone’s feelings out there, have jason support you on this, and nip it in the bud. lots of love hon!

marry this boy, dang it!!!