How do make this decision while pregnant and abused?

If you have people there to support you,that’s great,many people don’t have that chance. If they’re willing to help you,take their support,save up money,and move girlie. But you have to be honest with yourself,are you emotionally/physically ready to take care of this child,a miny you?Could you be a mother?Or just a mom?Think of the kid. You’ve made some mistakes. Ok. So who hasn’t? But now is the time to step up because you have another life to think about. Try to steer clear from your ex,getting a job in a different city if you have to. It’s going to be hard,but I believe in you,God believes in you. You’ve gotta start a new life,a smart life,im glad you’re in college,that gives you something to build on.For now just stay out of relationships and decide whether you can support the child. If your family will help you,take it,but you’ve gotta work too,I know it’s difficult,you must be going through terrible emotions/thoughts right now,but build up your travel pack,and restart fresh.You’ll be ok,be strong.

That is so wonderful that you had the courage to finally leave your abuser. Good for you.

Now you have a lot to think about. You can keep the baby, give it up for adoption, or abort. There are many things to think about.

-Will you and the baby have a place to live? -Will you be able to get baby food? -Will you be able to get baby clothes? -Will you be able to get health insurance for yourself and the baby? -If you work, do you have someone affordable who can take care of the baby? -Will you be able to finish school with a baby?

It sounds like you’re not in a great position to have baby right now, but it probably could be done if you work very hard. So think about what would be the best decision for both you and the baby.

Do not let your mother’s fears of being pushed aside influence you too much. She’s an adult. She should be able to handle being pushed out of the spotlight a little when her daughter needs some attention and support.

Put the kid up for adoption. You can’t care for it yourself and DO NOT let this guy and your mom care for it. PLEASE.

And next time a guy hits you, don’t take four years to figure out that it’s not a good thing.

I am seventeen years old and can’t have childern becasue of a blood infection i had that spread to my womb and destroyed it and so my first thoughts are kepp the child..i do not think a child should ever pay for the mistakes of their parents..and this kid could be the best thing that ever happened to you who know if you can’t take care of it give it to your mother but please don’t kill it..there is life inside you growing living off of you even now that child needs you more then ever..the bible says that childern are a gift from God..he gives and takes away and stillw e are supose to praise him..God wants you to have this child for a reason or you would not be pregnant he choice to put a life in you and that life needs you..do what your heart tells you but think of life and you you are alive a person the life in you is no different..and by the way it has a heart beat .

fair play to you for leaving that a%*hole. it was an extremely brave decision and is a testament to how strong you are. as for the baby, it is entirely your decision and noone elses. it is your child and your body. for some decisions in life we would love to have someone come in and tell us what to do, but life is all about lesson, the good and the bad. do not let your mam influence your decision in anyway. its not her child. she should be delighted about having a grandchild anyway!! and if you were strong enough to leave your ex, you are definatlly strong enough to cope with a baby. good luck in whatever you decide to do. x

Congratulations on getting out of that relationship. Many people don’t realize how you can feel trapped into staying in an abusive relationship.

As far as the baby, it is your decision. It’s your life, your body so don’t make the decision based on what someone on a message board says. Weigh your pros and cons (make a T-chart on paper, it helps believe me!) and how they will affect YOU. Then go from there.

I think you should also talk to your supervisor at your old job about what has been going on and see if you can get your job back. Get a restraining order on your ex so he can’t bother you at the workplace. Stand up for yourself, you’ve already taken the first step.

well first i want to say congrats for leaving someone who has treated you so horrible. If you think you are ready to have a baby then go ahead and have it. Their have been hundreds if not thousands of women who take care of their babies by them selves. not that it is an easy thing to do but it can be done. with your mom and her new boyfriend give it a shot and just tell you mom that its her chance to have a grandchild but only if her and her newboyfriend can treat your child correctly. and if you do decide to have this child you can teach he or she wat you been thorugh and let them learn from it. now if you do decide to get an abortion which i think should be your last choice becuz i am not pro aboirtion becuz their are chances u wont be able to have kids again. but their are other choices out their and you just need to thinka bout wat you want and wat u can do. thinka bout the pros and the cons

tell the police he abused you. then you can set a restraining order(: