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Why do I think of cheating if im happy in my relationship?

I’ve been in a relationship (on and off) for 2 and a half years. My boyfriend and I have had some rough patches but overall I’ve been happy with our relationship, especially recently. I also recently met a guy that I started to have feelings for. We’ve only been talking as friends but for some reason I’m starting to like him.

I decided to stop talking to him for now and surprisingly I really miss him but what I really need to know is: if I’m happy in my relationship like I claim I am who am I so into this new guy? Should I break up with my boyfriend or just stop the friendship with the new guy? is this a sign that I can’t or shouldn’t be committed? this hasn’t happened to me before

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Answer #1

I think it’s natural for people met other people and develop feelings for someone because they are more ‘fun’ or they make you laugh with their jokes’ or have the personality we ‘seem’ to find appealing, but once you cheat you break any bond you have with the person you are with, which will take ages to repair.

The only suggestion I recommend is having time out with your boyfriend, you both see other people. But if you decide to take this road, bare in mind, your boyfriend may not be waiting on the sideline for you if things do not work out with this other guy. You may realise down the track, your boyfriend was ‘the one’ but by than it may be too late as he as moved on too.

If this will help you a bit, my boyfriend dumped me last year for a month because I hooked up with a friend of a friend on f.a.c.ebook. We met up a few time and had lunches together and kissed once but that was enough to hurt my boyfriend and make him cry. Even now, my boyfriend still rings at nights and during work hours to ‘check up’ on me. As I mentioned above, once you break the trust, it will take mini baby steps to earn the full trust back.

Answer #2

im sorry I don’t have advice I just want you to know I fil the same way my boyfriend and I been togather for two years I love him to DEATH but I think about cheating on him

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