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What should I say to my dad after he lied & cheated on my mom?

My mother has a friend & they have been friends for almost 12 years & recently my dad & her have been talking a lot 7 been texting a lot. well then my mother caught them together. & I mean I don’t understand why she didnt leave him the first time that she caught them. but eventually she just acted like nothing happened, & she forgave her friend. well over christmas break my father went to tn because he had to work down there, & his parent live down there so he was gonna stay down there the whole week. Well yesterday my father left & he told my mom that he left around 4:30. well then she called him abot 2 hours after he told her that he just left to figure out where he was. & he told her that he was in kentuky because the roads were bad. Well then I get a text message from my friend saying that he just saw mt father with my moms friend in mcdonalds. & it was true. my father lied about where he was when he talked to my mom. I just don’t nderstand why he always has to lie. & now hes texting me saying that nothing has happened between him & her. but I mean if nothing seriously happened between them then why has this happened at least three different times? I just don’t know what I shold say to him. I just dont have any respect for him anymore.

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Answer #1

I totally undrestand, but the best to do in this situation is to talk to your dad tell him how you feel about him how angry and upset you feel tell him that you dont feel respect about him anymore…I know how you feel in this moment you feel sad,angry,theres a lot of amotions going on but you have to help your mom keep on mind that even thought she looks like nothing happen she feels really bad and you have to tell her how much you love her and that your with her no matter what…and if you actually want to talk to your moms friend about it and scream at her in my opinion I know its gonna sound weird but go ahead and do becase if you never do it youll be it inside and believe I wish I could kill my dads exlover because I feel so angry I passed through the same thing and I havent scream at her because she left to texas so I couldnt do it and I feel really bad it happen a year aGO and im still with that…but just help your mom ok..and you have a friend on me;)

Answer #2

ask him like you no gently just talk about don’t be angry maybe act upset? just get it out of da way tell him you love him and ull feel much betta :)

Answer #3

what I would do is, dont talk to your dad, talk to your mom, she is the victim and is probably hurting really bad on the inside, she probably needs someone to confide in, I know why she hasnt left him, she loves him and when a women truly loves someone they will stay with the other person no matter what, butt right now you need to be there for your mom, comfort her and talk everything over, come up with a game plan, something good for the both of ya, but if this isnt the first she should probably let go, but thats something for you and her to talk over, just know I have seen something like this turn into just pain and misery, I hope and pray you and your mom wont have to experince that pain and make the right choice to just leave your dad, but once again you and your mom need to talk about it and be there for eachother,

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