What do I do?? With her and this situation?

Ok well… To put it in perspective for you guys is that… Exactly a year ago I went on holiday with my family abroad… And I never was with my family… I was just with the friends I’d made there… There was only 4 14/15 year olds (I was 1 of them) ther was another guy and 2 girls.. Anyway… We all became really good friends and me and this girl hit it off automatically… She would always then just blow kisses, sit on my knee, run her hand thru my hair, stuff like that, then eventually it became more… We would go behind sheds and makeout… Go to eachothers apartments and makeout and do other stuff. Then ther was this whole thing with her older bro… Him walkin in on me and her making out both with no shirts on (she was in a bikini anyway but still) and he beat me and held me under the water in the pool… Sayin he’d kill me if I didn’t stop bein near her. (I ignored him) But then after a week (ino short time for doin that kinda stuff) and when I told her I was leaving to go back home she was in such a state… I never knew she cared that much… Then eventually she let me go… (she held so tightly…) it was like I was tearing out her heart and I was tearing hers (very soppy thing to say but im painting a picture) We emailed for a few days after I got home… But it was never the same… We ended up completly stopping… But its been exactly a year since we’ve been together… And it might sound stupid but I miss her, the way she would kiss… Just everything… My friends (that know) say how stupid I am… And that al they can say is that since her bro beat me that I was “in an abusive relationship/friendship” but I wasn’t and they said to have left that second… But I just want to know how to get over it… How? What to I do to fully move on?

Answer #1

You had something wonderful that many others have also experienced - a holiday romance. The weather and scenery are perfect, the location is romantic, no-one has to go to work, the real world is gone. You’re surrounded by happy people having a good time… everything seems set up for a seduction.

It’s all an illusion… and most holiday romances break up very quickly upon the return to everyday life. if they can even get that far.

Keep the memory of this one sweet, and in your heart forever. Write to her and tell her she will always have that spot and you will never forget the happiness she gave you and the very special memories of that holiday. When or if you ever return to that place, your heart will swell.

Answer #2

well I would make sure you had good closure with her first and then start looking for a girl that you like near you! and one that doesn’t have and over protective brother!lolz go scouting for a girl with your friends it sounds kind of lame but I think you sound like a boy that just misses the feelings she gave you, but to be honest you can most likely get those same feeling from another girl if you give her a chance. I am not saying just go looking for some girl that will “lay you” or w/e I am saying to go and look for a girl thats good girlfriend material! one that you can care about enough to get those emotions back. Open up some and live a little :P

Answer #3

thanks for all this girls… I just probably need to say that we don’t talk anymore… we faded in january and well… she was 15 and I was 14… it was a holiday thing, but at the time I just wanted it to never end. she WILL always have a huge bit of my heart.. but thanks guys you’ve been a real help :)

Answer #4

I think find yourself a new love interest , it might work out a lot better , just keep telling yourself that you will soon find someone special , and who you can actually see occasionally ,good luck :D

p.s look around you , you might find someone and stop thinking of her

:D:D

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