Do you have a promise ring?

I had a promise ring before I got engaged/married. To me, it signified a bit more of a commitment so that other people knew to back off. We viewed it as like a pre-engagement ring. We both discussed the ring, and we went together to pick it out, so nothing was really ‘’said’’. I knew I wanted hearts, and we knew what our combined budget was (my current husband and I started sharing money just a few months into our relationship).

Are they just for boyfriend/girlfriend relationships? I don’t think so necessarily. It’s just a symbol of commitment to someone. I think you could very well have one in a gay relationship or even in a personal relationship with your chosen deity. It just depends on who you’re promising something to. What that promise includes also varies from person to person. For us, it just meant that we weren’t going to be just a fling like so many couples around us. We wanted more, and eventually, we got just that.

Even though I have my wedding band and engagement ring on my left hand now, I wear my promise ring on my right because I love it. It has a small .10 carat diamond in it, but the hearts that I mentioned earlier are on the side, not on top. In other words, if you look right down on my hand, all you see is a diamond. If you take the ring off and hold it so that you can see the circle flat, you can see hearts cut out of that with a big heart mounting the diamond. The ring was fairly inexpensive…$400 I think. It was enough for the time, and I’m not big on jewelry anyways. What I got is perfect, and really it’s the thought that means more than anything else.