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Who can help with some girlfriend problems?

I’ve been with my girlfriend for more than a year and I love her dearly. I would give the world for her. But sometimes she can be a little “drama queen”.. And with either big or little things, ill try talking to her so we can find a solution but she just gets really upset. I mean I can understand getting a little upset about some things, but she can get overly upset about a lot of things. And I try explaining everything to her and I tell her how I feel about whatever it is, and ill try to calm her down, but she just gets upset and thinks I don’t trust her with anything. I can see how she got into this habit of blaming things on herself even if she didn’t do them because her parents tend to blame ridiculous things on her when it’s clearly someone else’s fault. But she doesn’t realize that she’s being like this, and she doesn’t even realize that some things aren’t her fault. I’ve tried explaining it all to her but I’m running out of ideas.. someone help? please..? :P

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Answer #1

At the time your explaining it to her doesn’t seem like the best time. People tend not to listen when they’re angry (from my own personal experiences). Try to talk to her when she is calm and tell her what she is doing unconsciously and how much you don’t like her doing that. I’m slightly confused about why she doesn’t trust you since your trying to help her. Not the point though, you want to help her but if she doesn’t want help then there isn’t anything you can do. If she does cooperate with you then you both have to solve this, things add up in a relationship and this might be to much for you over extended periods of time and you might end up breaking up with her for something as small as this. If you mention that to her then she might be likely to change.

If she wants this to work then she needs to see somethings and you have to help her see how things really are. Explains things just like you did in your question and she is likely to get it simple as that. If she gets moody about this then its best to drop the conversation, it isn’t worth having if she is just going to get a fit and be stubborn about it.

Answer #2

ok , so I relate to your girlfriend because thats exactly how I am. if shes anything like me, she only does that because she wants attention, especially from you, so give it to her. comfort her and make her smile, trust meee. me and my ex always got in fights because of this, and it wasnt worth it. so just give her attention , and everything will be fine. she’ll love you even more for it :)

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