Our Moms won't leave us alone

You asked for funmail, this won’t be. Too many kids are shacking up these days before marriage. I’ve said the same to another FunAdvicer and got a real bashing. But it is the truth. We are to save ourselves and be pure for marriage.

If you guys are truly in love, get married. Don’t just have a wedding, give 100% to each other, treat the other as better than yourself by meeting their needs first, then yours. Marriage is not 50/50. You give your whole self to the other to become one flesh, a covenant to each for life.

Feeling somewhat strained by the company? Politely give your schedule for visiting, and by all means have them call first before coming over.

Erin, you said you were kind of confused about God because no one really pointed you to Him. Do you have a Bible handy. Start in the book of John in the New Testament. Some people don’t like to start in the middle of a book, but that is one of the love letters to God’s people. See what manner of love is this to be called a son (daughter) of God! Read it to each other and you will be blessed.
Find one with Jesus’ words in red and really meditate on His Word. Blessings as you find truth, Dan

Yep im afraid everyone is right. Its what happens when you move out. You see us parents think that you guys cant function without us, but the thing is… is that you really can but we dont want to see it. We like to feel needed even though you have grown up !! You should just say straight up “look im really happy that your trying to help but… we would like to see how we cope on our own without help. If we need anything we promise we will ask for your help.” My thoughts on the matter is this. If they think that they have done a good enough job of raising you then they will let you be. Maybe when you are settled in have both sets of parents around for a meal. If they can see you really can cope maybe they will back off. Some parents actually get a separation anxiety so please try and understand their side too. xxx GOOD LUCK LOL

I know they are driving you crazy but the are just excited for you. Give it a little longer and they will stop showing up all the time. If not set some rules. They must call before they show up. That way if you dont want to see them just tell them you are not home… lol. Dont worry it will all be over soon. Good Luck!

I had a similar problem. The best thing to do is talk to them straight up about how you feel. If that will offend them, then ween them off. You and Dylan set some distinct boundaries (ex: we will talk on the phone once every other day and visit face to face once a week) and stick to them. If they call more than you want to talk, don’t answer or let them know you are busy and you will call them back later. If they just show up, don’t answer the door. If they question you about it, tell your mom you were having sex. I doubt she’ll want the details. They will get the point after a week or two. Good luck.

Aww you’re growing up lol. Yeah parents always want in your business once you’ve moved out because they now realize that you are not going to talk to them near as much or see them near as much. I pretty much just blew my parents off and told them I couldn’t afford the cell phone bill and just changed my number. For sensible advice I’d tell your parents the truth and kind of blow it out of proportion a little so you sound like you can’t handle it so maybe they will lay off some.

With your boyfriend I would just go out to a couple nights on the town to get away from reality for a whole minute. I mean you are both on your own now and can do whatever so make it feel like you are out.

just dont answer the phone.

thanks a lot for the advice everyone (: