The big question about sex

shag means having sex

Oh you’ll do fine.. just do whatever you feel…

WOW angelfire2708 pretty much wraps it up there I agree with all of it

you don’t sound like you love him, and he doesn’t sound like he loves you. Sex is mean to be a way of showing how much you love someone. Plus you are only 14, think of the consquenes —> pregnancy and all sorts

dirty dont have it with him he will just leave you , most lads say most stuff like they love you , and want to be with you forever but they lie lmao just say uour not up tooo it :) x

thank you angelfire you are wise unlike the young immature girl who has asked the question SAVE YOURSELF FOR SOMEONE WHO CARES ABOUT YOU you will feel horrible about yourself in the end and will cause more problems than it will solve

Im not a naive teenager and I’m not going to tell you what to do, because you are only 14. This boy is TOO old for you, and the fact that he is pushing you to do things so fast proves he only wants you for sex! You are going to give someone who doesnt even respect you, let alone even care about you your virginity? He has done LOTS Of girls, because he uses them, just like he is using you. You are only going to be another notch on his bed post (if you understand what that means) You have only been going out for 3 weeks, and he wants sex already? Do you honestly think this guy “loves” you? Girl, you are in for a rude awakening. Trust me, HE WILL LEAVE YOU! Why do you think hes had so many girls? Because they are just like you. Willing to give him whatever he wants!

In most teen relationships, sex becomes the focus, and other aspects of the relationship have no chance to develop, like a friendship. Relationships that are solely based on sex are doomed!

Ask yourself these questions>How to Tell if a Man is Using You

There is a significant difference for most men between wanting a woman for a plaything, and wanting a real, healthy, mature relationship.

The two should not be confused. Does the guy show care and respect for you? Or are you a convenience?

Do your conversations center around life, ideas, interesting thoughts? Or is it all about when you are available for sex?

Do you have a great time together when there is no physical activity going on? Or is sex the only thing that brings you together?

Do you feel cared for and cherished for being who you are? Or do you feel you are only valued for what you do for the guy?

Is the guy interested in your goals, your dreams, your hopes? Or is the relationship pretty much centered on his needs?

Do you feel in your heart that you are valued as a human being? Or do you feel your value comes from the guys expectations?

Many women hold the mistaken idea that if a man wants to have sex with them, the guy must love them or at least like them. Not so.

Ask yourself why you want to have sex. Is it because you want to make your partner happy or make him love you? Do you want to feel more grown up? Are you thinking of having sex because everybody else is doing it?

These are all really BAD reasons to have sex. Sex doesn’t prove love or make people more in love. It doesn’t make you into an adult overnight either.

Sex is NOT love

Sex also causes complications in relationships. Many guys have tried to trick girls with the line, “You’re the one.” Hopefully, most girls will have the sense not to fall for that one when being with someone for only a short time. Peer pressure from friends and the partner are not fair to you and if they love you as a friend or a boyfriend they should not be pressuring you at all. If the person you are in a relationship with respects you, they would not force you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. If you can not talk about sex with the person you love, then you probably should not be doing it.

hes showing you lots of signs which screams RUN BABY RUN! .before its too late, if he has done many girls it means he will do you too. age doesnt really matter,but you must wait for the guy, who respects your virginity , who cared for your well being , who advice you,not a guy who wants to do all what you wanna do or the opposite, relationship is not about sex, not even close to it, it beings getting to know each other emotionally, and building emotional attraCTION, learn to know men emotionally before sexually .. gud luck

oh ok!! have sex!!!

uh sorry! I don’t know what shag means! lol

if you can trust him theres nout to worry about just follow your instinct and he will guide you into what to do gd luk :D

I agree with angelfire2708 all the way. I wouldnt do it!!! and he IS WAY TO OLD FOR YOU!!! and yall havent been together that long

I have to agree with angelfire. make sure he actually loves you and not using you. why do you think he has had sex with all those girls and he still isnt in the relationship with neither of them. think about it twice before you either lose your virginity and you might have a kid. there’s consequences.