Should I follow my head or my heart?

Dear dede2007, Your life story hits close to home for me. Sparing you my life story but speaking from experience I will say this. You need to follow your heart. Verbal ABUSE is abuse and never should be tolerated. If you are not in love with your husband then you need to do him and yourself a favour and move on. You are also holding your husband back from finding his happiness in life too. Life is very short and we are not in a dress rehearsal we are given this one chance to live our lives to the fullest. Although I have met my second husband online and we’ve been married for 7 years I will say be very, very cautious there. Your are in a state of vulnerability and after a long term relationship rebounds can be disasters. I spoke with my hubby for an entire year online and on the phone before we met, we spent time together getting to know each other before I moved to his home town. Always end one relationship before beginning another…close all the doors behind you making sure you give yourself a lot of time to heal so you can offer another your whole loving self. There are a lot of women’s groups out there that deal with this issue. Seek out some counselling for this…you will be glad to share your life with others in the same situation. Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end and time is all important here. Do not rush, always end one relationship totally before beginning another and take the time to heal and become whole. Sue…good luck