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Okay, as far as I know, I am bisexual. But I lean way more toward girls. Like when I go into a room I look at the girls first then the guys after or not at all. My problem is I think I may be a lesbian. But I am still attracted to guys. I can tell if a guy is cute or not and stuff like that but its not anywhere near as close to the attraction I have for girls. Just recently I got a boyfriend. I like him and he says he loves me and stuff and he wants to have sex with me. I told him no number 1: because I think im too young and I probably cant handle it..theres too many risks, etc. And number 2: sex with a guy just doesnt seem right to me. It doesnt disgust me or anything, I just really dont think its something I want to do. Like I think I would have to seriously be in love with the guy to be with him intimatley. It takes a lot for me to fall for a guy, you have to be a really special guy to me. And if I think about it, I really dont have feelings for other guys. There were maybe 2 guys in my school that I had feelings for. My friend who is also gay told me that I am still young and I have a lot of time to figure myself out so I shouldnt be that worried about this Im just really confused and I need advice on what your guys’ opinions on this are. So help? (:

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Answer #1

Ohmygod, you sound exactly the same as me (Although apart from the boyfriend part, I have a girlfriend). I “came out” almost three years ago, and it wasn’t until this year that I started “leaning” towards girls more than guys. My (of my guy) friend keeps going to me “When’re you just gonna admit you’re a lesbian?!” coss I’ve had three girlfriends in a row without a boyfriend. But it irratates me, coss if it were three boyfriends in a row he wouldn’t be going “Just admit you’re straight!”

But I know I’m not a lesbian, coss I can still look at a guy and think “W-O-W” and generally find them attractive in the same way I do girls. But is never as often or as strong.

Just accept yourself as a bisexual who preffers girls, it’s what I did and I felt a lot better ^_^

Answer #2

Well you good for you for saying no, but if your just with him to make him happy then dont date him, and yes your friend was right you are young and you do have lots of time to figure your self out. Dont rush into things with a guy or a girl. I was like you I was 14 and tought I liked girls but now im older and have two kids and realized that it was a phase (not saying thats what it is for you) . if you have any more questions fun mail me :) . Yours truly, Demika Ray

Answer #3

im a man and I am bisexual and I do my friend when they come over and love it but I do girls but mostly guys just be happy with your self

Answer #4

Well… are you really into guys… is the question… i am bi too…. but you may be lesi… and if you are… talk a girl who is too… maybe they can help you

Answer #5

Well this was a while ago and now i mean im talking to many guys . im definatley attracted to guys more than i was 11 months ago buht i do still like girls . buht now im more comfortable with who i am on all levels and im sticking with the fact that i am bisexual and i’ll be with whoever makes me happy . (:

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