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Problems with my stepdad

I have a stepdad. My mom and him have been married for about 3 years.He recently(3-4 months ago) arrived from India to come live with us. At first I was excited about him coming to stay with us. But when he arrived I hated him a lot !!! At first I thought I can ajust to him so my mom will be happy, but the problem is I cant. We have arguments and I cant stand him. When we had a huge argument, I talked to my mom about him, and I told her that I dont want him around. She told me to try to ajust with him because he is a part of our family now. I am notgonna ajust with him and I want him to leave ASAP. How can I get him to leave?

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Answer #1

Okay…first, calm down! Next, ask yourself, what is that he does that gets under your skin…and don’t say EVERYTHING! List specific things. Then look at the list and see how many may be petty little things that you listed because you are angry that your mother replaced your father with another man. Then after you cross off some of those items, look the list over again, and see how many items are on it because of something YOU may be doing, or YOUR attitude over something. Then cross those items off! Ghandi said that we need to BE the change we want to see in other people. This is good advice. You may not like him, but apparently your mother LOVES him. He will be there after you have moved out, married, and had children of your own. You will understand a WHOLE lot more then. The fact that you don’t like him, has nothing to do with it. You don’t get to make that choice. You don’t have to love him, but out of your love for your mother, you SHOULD respect him and is authority in the home! I know this may seem harsh and hard to swallow, but I assure you, it is the best thing to do!

Answer #2

you should just talk to him, dont get him to leave unless hesdoing somthing other than arguing with you. just bacisally sit him down and tell himhes being a stright up asshole. and you’d llike it if he were to be nicer to you.

I don’t know thats what I did.. lol

Answer #3

hey I have one and he can be a butt sometimes but just give him a chance

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