Problems at home

I cant get along with my parents. I’m turning 21 in August and I moved back in with them when I was almost 19 before that I was living alone since I was 16. The situation was they moved to america, and I had some complications, so I stayed in canada. Anyways I managed to graduate Highschool after a couple transfers, I just finished an associates degree and I need another year at Walsh and I get my bachelors. Meanwhile im on probation and I have a drinking problem which I try to keep under control by not going out. Point is this I dont go out much usually just to work and home and school. I just broke up with my girl a few months ago after being togetherr since highschool basically and I drink more than usual lately. I’ve always drank a lot, obviously I dont drink and drive anymore, anyways my p.o. doesnt find out, last time she sent me to jail was because of a weed in my system and I quit smoking so. im trying to do good, im not hurting anyone else, My brother always tells em I drank a lot when we went out and they start asking me why, we have the same converstation all the time. I just think if I stay here with my parents any longer im gunna lose my mind they argue over nothing they pick at bullshit I come home tired from work too, I work construction and I hear some bullshit about the dishes or something and I lose it. I guess im used to living alone, and they left me in the first place. but I can save up a lot more money if I stay, im looking to go to New York for my masters and its not cheap.

So one more year at home or get out?

Answer #1

Your parents only treat you like that man, cause they care. We don’t have the exact situation, but d*mn close. I moved out with my son and his mom at 16 and moved back after recieving an associates degree as well, and I don’t drink a lot at all, but I kinda of have a smoking problem. I know my parents just want me to be able to get out on my own and stay on my own, and want the best for me. They may not act like that, but maybe they think that “tough” love will help you, and from the sound of it, it just may work if you can hang tough through it.

Just keep not smoking and lite drinking and live day by day bro , things always have a mysterious way of working out.

Good Luck

Answer #2

If you feel like you can stick it out for one more year living there then I say try because that way you will have a lot more money saved up for your masters. If you think that what you’re going through at home will cause you to start drinking and smoking again then I say get out. It sounds like you are doing good and you don’t want to do anything that would jeopardize that. It’s great that you want to get your masters. I would focus on school and get your masters and then try and find a girl. good luck :]

Answer #3

I would say get out. If you have a good steady job so that you can live on your own and you don’t get along well with your parents…then leave. It’s good that you’re trying to do good. Your parents’ bs might cause you to do off and do something you might regret (trust me, I’ve seen this happen) and then you’ll be all messed up. So get out. Go to new york (yes, it’s not cheap, but I’ve seen people make it), go to school, find a girl, and live your life.♥

Answer #4

Move out ASAP because your parents might treat you like a little kid. Move out get an apt with some friends and then your parents can get off your butt

Answer #5

Welcome to Fun Advice!

  in my opinion: Even though you are an adult, while under your parents roof try to accommodate their wishes. Not only are you saving money by being there but you are also a little less likely to do drugs or alcohol.

Set yourself goals; 3 months, 6 months, 1 year and 2 years. Make sure they are realistic goals. Then, only do those things that help you achieve your goals.

I imagine that if you communicate with your parents and let them know what your goals are, they will more readily help you achieve them. Plus, they will be more understanding of where you are at and where you are trying to get to.

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