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So I need some advice, what should you do when the person your going to marry is trying to force you to completly change what you believe in, but wont listen to your ideas and try to compromise?

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Answer #1

You can try couple therapy for a professional, neutral person to see each of your point of views, and help you two develop a compromise.

I can say all the things you already know, like yes, it doesn’t make sense to change someone after falling for the person they first met, plus she went in to the relationship knowing you have a different belief/view to hers. I know you’ve been trying to communicate hard to her and try to be mature and deal a compromise to her, but some things are hard to change for someone else if it has been part of the person for many years, maybe even since childhood. There’s also you and your partners family to think about. Even after coming with a compromise, it doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t voice out their own views on who should’ve done this or that, and why their beliefs are better/makes more sense than the other.

You obviously love her, do work this out before marrying her, professional help is best.

Answer #2

if she truely loved you she wouldnt force to change anything about you. thats controlling, and they’re right^^. it will only get worse in the marriage like she will try to control more things..or even simple things cause she knows she can. tell her you have beliefs. and show her that you don’t try to force change on her beliefs, so why would you try to change mine? im agnostic, and my boyfriend is catholic. I don’t try to change him, he doesn’t try to change me. and if its other beliefs your talking about we don’t try to change those either. just try to talk to her about it. and if she refuses to talk about it or doesnt see that your right then I would put off the marriage.

Answer #3

Hi. If you ask me if he’s that controlling before you get married it’s only going to get worst. In a healthy relationship their should compromise, someone you can talk to about anything with out fear. You should have the right to believe. I hope every works out because you should be happy in your own right. Good luck.

Answer #4

I wouldn’t marry someone like that…

If they’re that controlling now, they’ll be EVEN WORSE in marriage.

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