He has a girlfriend and I don't want him to hurt her

Ok. So there is this really hot guy at my school named Scott.. He saw me and told my sister he wanted 2 bang me.. and I thought it was weird.. at first.. we gradually started talking and hugging.. and 2day we hung out with my sister, her ex, and our friend. the entire time we were holdin onto each other.. he was smiling at me (GORGEOUS SMILE!!) and I think im really starting to like him. and when we had 2 go. I kissed him on the cheek and told him he looked super cute in his uniform (we were at his work place) and he said thanks babe.. and kissed me back.

THE PROBLEM: He kinda has a girlfriend. kinda doesnt. he doesnt like her.. but she loves him and he doesnt want to hurt her.

WHERE I NEED ADVICE: What do I do??? I really like him.. but I dont want him to hurt the other girl.. but I just LOVEE seeing him..

HELP PLEASE

Answer #1

WHERE I NEED ADVICE: What do I do??? I really like him.. but I dont want him to hurt the other girl.. but I just LOVEE seeing him..

You really like a guy… who wants to ‘bang’ you. Yeah… real good reason to like someone…

He kinda has a girlfriend. kinda doesnt. he doesnt like her.. but she loves him and he doesnt want to hurt her.

He doesn’t want to hurt her, and YOU don’t want him to hurt her. That means you STAY AWAY FROM HIM, until he grows the balls necessary to break up with his ‘girlfriend/notgirlfriend’ that he allegedly ‘doesn’t like’

Answer #2

well he said tha 2 my sis a log time bout. bout the banging.. but hes really sweet and cute..

Yes, we’re all very sweet and cute. It makes you like us, and want to be close to us, and harbor feelings for us.

Then AFTER the banging… we change…

and there not dating.. she just wont leave him alone

…but they WERE? At some point, right? How long ago were they together, and for how long? If they’re not together, then why does your thread question start with: “He has a girlfriend…” ? ?

Answer #3

if he just wants to bang you then I wouldnt get to attatched it sounds like he only wants to have sex with you I wouldnt think hes the type of guy who would say he loves you and would keep it that way

Answer #4

iF you REALLY DO like HEM 4GET BOUT EV1 ELSE & DO WHTS RiGHT 4 U & iF HE D0ES REALLY like you HED 4GET AB0UT that girl & just N0T CARE I NO iT SOUNDS MEAN BUT iTS true

H0PE ALL G0ES WELL 4 U.=]

Answer #5

well.. I didnt make it that.. I put need help asap.. lol. and it changed.. but they only dated for like.. a weekish.

Answer #6

ok.. well he said tha 2 my sis a log time bout. bout the banging.. but hes really sweet and cute.. and there not dating.. she just wont leave him alone

Answer #7

u really need to tell him “the only way we cna go out is if you tell your girlfriend that you dont want to go out anymore”

and if he really loves you then he will break up with the other girl

thats how you can tell

Answer #8

My cousin is going through almost the same thing she likes this guy chris and well helikes her also but one PROblem he has a girlfriend but he doesnt like her they have been together for two years and he wants to break up with her but he cant cause she threatend she would kill him. and he has a 4 year old daughter who he cares for a lot and I told him having her saying that she would kill him and stuff since he cared for his daughter he shouldnt have her around and hes in the process of breaking up with her. but I think that he should tell her the truth. it sounds like you guys belonggg together. I hope I helped: )

Answer #9

but there not really dating.. lol

Answer #10

thank you soo much you guys!! :) I hope he does get bigger balls and does the right thingg

Answer #11

if he didnt like the girl and he liked you he would say that he doesnt feel right anymore and dont talk to her

Answer #12

He can “kinda” bang you and still keep his girlfriend if you let him. I wouldn’t get too attached.

Answer #13

I’ve gone through the samee thing… in my situation I actually ended bc I didnt want the girl to get hurt, but it sucks cause its like your breaking your own heart to protect hers while your left with nothing . its a very delicate situation bc eventually someone WILL get hurt =/

Answer #14

you should tell him you like him but if she not your friend tell him that you sweetheart so tell him chrissy x3

Answer #15

thanks girlll

Answer #16

well.. I didnt make it that.. I put need help asap.. lol. and it changed.. but they only dated for like.. a weekish.

sigh

Okay… a week (or a weekish) is nothing. She is not (nor ever was) his girlfriend, correct? They only ‘dated’ briefly, and he lost interest, right? Is all that accurate?

ahem

This situation has to be resolved by HIM, not you. HE has to be honest and make it clear to her, that he’s no longer interested (ball growth required). She WILL GET HURT, regardless of how all this plays out; you both need to understand that. If he’s not up-front about this, he’ll indirectly lead her on further. So he just needs to accept the fact that he’s going to hurt her feelings, and she’ll think he’s a jerk, and she’ll going crying to her friends, bend the truth to make it sound worse, and then her friends will think he’s a jerk too… because that’s how high-school works. But she’ll get over it, and life will go on.

If he can’t find the ‘testicular fortitude’ to do this, that makes him indecisive, and kinda flakey. And it would also seem disrespectful for him NOT to end it with her, while he’s talking (hanging, flirting, hugging, kissing, and everything that follows, etc.) with YOU. No self-respecting girl should ever want a two-timer. And if HE doesn’t understand this, then he’s not as sweet as you think.

Again, until he ends his ‘whatever’ with her, YOU need to stay off the map.

That’s the RIGHT thing to do.

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