My real dad

well I kindof had the same thing. when I was about 9 my grandpa was a druggie. ( my mom had me when she was young) so he was only in his 30’s well he wanted to meet me and I always thought that my step grandpa was my accuall grandpa. so I desided that I wanted to meet him even tho he wouldnt evn claim me as his own grandoughter and he was really mean to my mother when she was younger. anyway. I met him and he apologized and wanted to me appart of my life I told him no. he asked why and I said because I dont wanna live withsomeone who dident even want me from the start and because your a druggie and I dont wanna be like you. a year lator he was completely off drugs alchol everything. ( this is just a short verson of what happened.) so I would meet your dad. you never know f you couldd end changing his life for the better. well its completely your desison. so good luck. hope I helped. =]

I think you should give him a chance and if possible meet him. as you know there times we made big mistakes, but what matters is we came back.

I would not meet him UNLESS he was clean and sober for at least 6 months AND he has been through rehab AND is going to AA meetings and has a sponsor AND at least the first time you meet, his sponsor is with the two of you

If he is not yet clean and sober and WITH A SPONSOR, tell him that if he wants to see you, then first he has to get his life cleaned up.

Remember that right now he was just a sperm donor. Your REAL Dad is the man who stuck with your Mom and helped to raise you with love and patience - the man you now know is your step-father.

I wish you well. Take care and Good Luck!!

thank you people for your help I realy appreciate it

just agree to meet him once if it gose ok then talk to him just be carefull because you don’t know him yet

give him a chance, or you’ll regret it forever