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My girlfriend shows little desire for me.

I have been going out with my current girlfriend for 2 months. We cuddle, and hold hands constantly, we kiss, and hug, and she enjoys giving me hickeys, but thats it. When we are alone and kissing, she just keeps her hands on the sides of me, never moves them around, or pulls me closer. I pull her closer, and I will feel around, and she doesnt mind it, she has even let me finger her, she said she doesnt mind, but she has no desire for it. She says she is sexually attracted to me, but doesnt act like it. I asked if she wanted me to go down on her, she basically said no. I asked why and she said, “I just dont want you to”. I DONT GET IT. She said she masturbates, so I know she likes sex. So… whats up? I mean, she has no interest at all in seeing me naked, is that normal? I makes me feel really ugly and unwanted, but when I say anything about it she gets all offended because it makes her think that all I want is sex. Thats not true, I understand if she is not ready for that, or even if she thinks BJ’s are gross, but she hardly shows any desire for me, and it really bothers me… what should I do?

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Answer #1

2 months isnt all that long. I think you are just moving things alittle too fast. Love takes time, lust is what you seem to want from her.

Answer #2

I love her, we have the best emotion attraction in the world. I tell her not to do anything she doesnt want to, I dont pressure her. She knows I am not after only sex, but she only pulls that card out when I mention anything about her not wanting to do ANYTHING with me to make me feel bad.

Answer #3

just tell her how you feel and maybe if you start being emoitionaly attracted to her she will do the same you need to show her you dont just want sex and thats probably how she feels start refusing sex and asking iher if she wants to go out instead of staying in and trying to get in her pants

Answer #4

Also,nyqueshaj, how can I refuse her sex if she doesnt want any?

Answer #5

Also,nyqueshaj, how can I refuse her sex if she doesnt want any?

Answer #6

Breakup with her. I’ve spent about two years going through the same thing. It may get a little better but it will never be what you want. If you don’t want to live the rest of your like that, break up with her and offer to be friends. That’s basically what you are anyway…

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