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How can I fix the fact that I hooked up with my best friend's ex?

my best friend’s ex boyfriend and i hooked up. But she still has those feelings for him but he didnt. We hooked up for one day and we got caugh by my best friend. I knew its hurt her much but i cannot believe i done this to her. She wont forgiving us for long time because he and i are living same streets; But now she forgiving me but not him. But i cannot take this off in my mind it is like stuck in my brain whole time and i dreamed about it often, After i kept talk to my best friend about this and her ex boyfriend but its not working out, I wonder how can i take it off?

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Answer #1

Honestly, thats a line you just dont cross. If she truly is your best friend, you are suppose to steer clear of tANY & ALL temptation. A real friend doesnt sleep with ANY MAN associated with their friends anyway. I dont understand why she forgave you, she must have a really good heart. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot. There are so many men in the world, why did you have to help yourself to him? That was not a wise decision! SHAME ON YOU!

Answer #2

Dear loverheart, This is called a guilty conscious and this usually happens to people when they have done something just as you have. The great thing is that because it still haunts you means that you have probably learned from your mistake but maybe feel that your friend hasn’t really forgave you for it or you have not forgiven yourself yet totally yet. We all make mistakes and hopefully we learn from them…do you feel you’ll do it again? NO…you’ve learned your lesson. YES…then make sure that you have no contact with the ex at all avoiding him at all costs. In fact not seeing him at this time probably is a good idea anyways…Tell yourself you’ve learned, you are a good person who made a mistake and tell this to your best friend as well. Hug each other and promise never to do this again. In time you both will forget and start remembering how important your friendship is. If you find this isn’t happening seek out counselling and they can give you some great ideas how to help with the nasty guilty conscious. Sue…good luck

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