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moving out issues with boyfriend and family

okay so I got a problem-o..

im 17 and my boyfriend wants me to move out with him and start a life on our own when he comes back from the marines which is in a couple of months but thing is..he’s leavin again.. so yea..we wont be together all the time..but hes asked me to marry him and what not…but see my parents hate him and cant stand me being with him to top it off me and my mother are always fighting and arguing, she insults me, puts me down, treats me like sht, my dad rubs in my past mistakes in my face..they both make me feel like im not good enough, but its something that you cannot even imagine! like I dont even want to put on here what they tell me because its humilating and honestly..I dont think I deserve such insults.I know I’ve made mistakes but I’ve showed im sorry and I deserve to be forgiven like the times I’ve forgiven them for how they’ve hurt me and its then when I REALLY feel that I want to move out, because im tired of all this B.S.*, start off new with someone that loves me..and it pisses my boyfriend off knowing all this because he says hes so far away and not able to do anything about it..and it frustrates him..he hates how my parents treat me…and have treated him..and seeing me cry my eyes out after an arguemnt with them but once all the drama calms down its okay and I dont feel like I did at the moment or days after it..but my boyfriend still has all that in mind and he’s mad at me bc I want to stay till im finished wit college which will be in a year and a half..he said that he doesnt care that he loves me and he will wait.. but I hate him being upset with all this drama.. we’ve been together for over 2 years now..I love him and he loves me.. we’re trying to make it thru..but he doesnt understand that im not 100% ready to leave my house RIGHT NOW…

I’ve explained it to him many times.. I want to finish school and that im not too ready for it.. I WANT TO DO IT..but NOT RIGHT now.. more when the time comes..to not rush into things then he says.. is it an education for what your stayin for? because I can give you all that and more hunny. so yea I don’t know what to tell him..

anyone know what I should do or tell him, like what other ways?

ps. he is very hard headed from time to time and gets frustrated easily when it deals with that.

thnx for your patience and advice in advance. :)

wit luv, belle

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Answer #1

hey well ill be honest im 21 and well going through the same thing my parents recently seperated and in the same manner they don’t like my boyfriend because he never comes around in the year weve been dating but its because he knows how the treat me.. weve now started to look for a place but I just feel lke I can’t wait and want out.. Like you I have a year left of college and well thats the only thing keeping me here at the house,… I live with my mom and well it been a abit I’ve been living with her again but I already wanna lose it on someone.. I would honestly say that if hes going to be on the go all the time I would wait .. it would be different if you guys could move in together and he could help you through the challeneges of living away from home.. but the best advice I can give you is to stay strong and like the other person said don’t argue back just ignore them as much as you can. im sure it will all work out and don’t worry your not the only one gong through it …

Answer #2

You’re right - you should complete school - not that long to go, plus he’ll be gone for much of that time anyway - there is no need to rush - if it’s real, he’ll be there - he should support…I wish you every happiness !!

Answer #3

It’s a hard situation. You have told your boyfriend that you are not ready to move out, and although it upsets him, he should respect your wishes. If your not ready, your not ready. I wouldn’t move out until you 100 pecent want to. Especially at 17. Your boyfriend is in the marines, that means he will be gone a lot. You would be in an empty apartment by youself, paying the bills, buying groceries, cleaning, cooking, doing everything on your own, all why trying to go to school and focus on that. It’s just not the right time. As for your parents, the best thing you can do is try and not argue with them. If they start, just nod your head or walk away. Dont sit there and yell back, it only makes things worse. I know it’s hard to do, but try and avoid the conflict.

Answer #4

ANYONE ELSE THAT CAN HELP ME??

**and those who have, I appreciate it deeply!

:)

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