How do I tell my mom that I want contact with my ex-alcoholic dad?

Sit down with her and tell her this as camly as you can. Let her know that when he came over on cristmas you had a good time, and that you would like to have those times with him more often. Also let her know that you understand the hard situation she use to be in with your dad. Tell her if meaby you and your dad can arrange the visits and stuff if she does not want to contact him herself.

Yell at her. While she’s making you a sandwich.

Did you speak to your mother or to him?

Talking to your parents, in this case your mother, about matters that are important to you and to her is a step toward adulthood. Keep that in mind in your conversation.

She allowed you to see him at Christmas (I am assuming) so that is 1 point in your favor. Tell your mother that you enjoyed your visit with him and that you hope to get to know him better so that you can have a relationship with him. Any mother will understand that.

She may be concerned because of his past and that’s where you have to be the understanding one too. (give and take, ya see). People do change. It’s not what or who he was before that is important here, it’s what and who he is today.

As long as he does what he is supposed to, I think she will understand. Be honest and don’t underestimate your mother. After all, she raised you well enough to have a forgiving heart and that is a good thing.

Good luck, ~jada~