Marriage problems

hmm, thats tough. If he really cared about her the choice is simple. But mabey he thinks she’s bluffing and he tried to call it. married or not, no one should go through life unhappy. so it sounds like what she did was a good move. Give him an option and a deadline to do it by. when it comes down to it I doubt he will choose the boiling job over his wife. And if he does then he didn’t really care about her anyway so it would be good for her to leave. The only advice I would give her would be to stick to the deadline. And don’t back down, she needs to have backbone for this. then he might realise what he’s doing is wrong. Or you could tell her to get a job with him

It seems like he doesn’t believe her. Otherwise, that ultamatem would have jolted a response out of him. tell her to stick to her guns. if he doesn’t follow her back to vermont in a month… his best interests aren’t with the marriage. (I’m not saying moving is the best idea, but if he isn’t even fighting for his side, he doesn’t care about her or her feelings). a “trial separation” would not be the end of the world.