How to not be shy?

I cant talk to people unless I get to know them, im really quiet even though im not antisocial people think I am, its just ruining me is there any help?

Answer #1

I’ve lived many places, moving 16 times in my life-totally got The New Kid thing down.

  1. Be yourself! Always! YOU know who you feel YOURSELF around…because, well, they are usually themselves…even if it’s just one person-the fit is there, my friend…if you like zany people that make you laugh, and then you will be at home there…if you are serious, studyin, or say technology puts a zip in your step-that’s where y’ll finda friend…If the person is mean to you, cause they have some issues-leave em be…go where you feel comfortable-I guess if you are you around someone it’s a true friend..
  2. I believe happiness’ll always start when you begin noticing what other’s are going through…if they’re having a bad day, just lost a grandparent, say or a girlfriend moved away, or they failed a class and are scared to death to tell their parents? YOU are the one THEY NEED! Its amazing how once you get your “poor lonely sorry shy hind- end” out into this world that NEEDS YOU! YOUR confidence will boost 10,000,000 times! Know why? Cause! Now YOU found a reason, dude. YOU are here because YOU are awesome and SO SO IMPORTANT!!! People will need and depend on you to help them and to be their friend! But!!! It takes seeing “outside” yourself…Try helping. Just try it! I triple DARE YOU…The more people you help. The more people you’ll know, the more info they’ll share w/you-the more you’ll learn about people..and basically people JUST LIKE YOU…Then YOU with this new confidence and purpose can and WILL naturally befriend them and teach them…what an amazing person you are!!! Thank you for being here…to be OUR friend! Now GO help someone!
  3. On the sub of helping- join an organization…schools have Interact, Circle K’s, um…mentor someone younger, or tudor them, tudor in the middle school or elementary, YMCA clubs, sports-(who cares if you’re great its all about gettin out, meetin friends anyway) churchs have mission trips that’ll take you to places that really need your help-any opportunity you can to get OUT of the box…
  4. Shut off the TV-don’t decide you need to be like whoever the TV says you should be. People matter. You can’t talk to them and make friends if you’re in front of the tube. Learn stuff by reading and doing! Take summer classes! The TV feeds us info! You should be living! Living+ doing=LIFE! YOU are in the drivers seat! Get on the road man! Make some friends! Cause sittin here reading this computer isn’t gettin ya friends!!!Now move it!! Great luck to you! Oh yea, A great starter to break the ice? Ask someone else for help! I love that! Makes me feel SO smart and…needed!
Answer #2

Just start by saying “ Hello” to someone you would like to meet, most people will reply and you will soon have a conversation going. You can ask about how the weather is suppose to be, you can ask what time is it or you can just ask how it is going.It is just about like you are doing here. just start out by asking a question.

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