Is it possible to develop feelings for someone you met online?

I met a guy in one of those social networking websites. I wasn’t looking for any sort of relationship when we met. During our first conversation he gave me this very good vibe about him, he made me feel ecstatic. There was just something about him that made me want to continue talking to him. After we talked for a bit that night, he proceeded to tell me that he would like to continue talking to me because he liked the way our conversation had gone, I agreed. I too anticipated talking to him again. He promised he would be on the next day and sure enough he was there waiting for me. Now it has only been a little over a month since we’ve been talking to each other, we talk for hours through mic, cam, text or phone. I love talking to him, he’s told me that he likes me a lot…I like him very much too but I have this little voice in the back of my mind that always keeps reminding me if this is real (this is online). I have generated feelings toward him same goes for him for me. My question is, is any of this possible? I know that we won’t know for sure if what’s going on between us is real until we meet in person. I fear that it may be moving a bit too fast. I have always been told to take my time when it comes to situations like these.

I’m the type of person that likes to keep myself in check, to be in control of my feelings. With all of this it’s like I have no control over them.

We have a lot in common. Talking to him has brought a lot of joy and happiness into my life.

Did I mention that he’s from another country? I just have a lot of thoughts about this that I can’t even put them in order, to be honest I’ve never been in a relationship before.

Answer #1

Dear mongirl, Today a lot of people socialize on line. The key to it all is time…yes time. Because you aren’t meeting in person the process is slower…or should be. You need to stay focused and stay in control. Listen for the consistency and look for the consistency in his messages. One day I met a man on line who lived 500 miles away. We had great conversations and we hit it off. The conversations continued for an entire year before we met. This man has now been my husband for 8 years. I know several who have met and married from being on line but all of us who have been successful have given it time and lots of time. Being from a different country will pose new challenges but all the more reason to take it slow. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

I think its possible. cz I felt the same way about a guy once in a chatting room. and I did really like him, and he told me the truth that he had a girlfriend. but dont get your hopes up. meet him first, and get to know him better before you make any more moves or become his girlfriend. because anything can happen if you dont know the guy. he might be some serial killer or a fraud. so be careful okay? and goodluck !

Answer #3

I met my girlfriend on facebook… she lives 30 min, away though… btw im 16 so I cant drive yet… but I met her on facebook and we messaged each other then we talked on AIM then we met in person and stuff… but we like each other a lot when we only talked to each other on facebook and AIM and it worked out.. so if you really liek this guy and he really likes you then you guys should meet and see if you still have that connection… even though he lives in a dif country its still good to find out how you feel bout each other when you meet

Answer #4

I have met tons of guys from online.. to be honest.. I meet 96% of my ex’s from myspace. so yeah its possible. but be careful, Some guys could be rapist…I should know..I met up with one and it wasnt so pretty in the end.

Answer #5

I have been talking to a girl for two years now I met on “Are you interested” on a social site. We hit it off and had relationships, but eventually I dumped my girlfriend, and then she dumped her boyfriend. there was lots of things preventing us from being together, she lives 3 hours away. However, we love eachother and tell eachother EVERYTHING, the biggest problem is not being able to trust eachother because you only know what they tell you. The more you talk, and the more you discuss things, you will know them better and see how real and how truthful they are. Maybe ask them someone you already know that they told you and see if you get the same answer. Its a easy test, its a little creepy to do that, but its worth it. Me and this girl are now single, in love and she is moving close to me int he next month. Even though we dont know eachother personally. Its quite obvious to us we would be perfect together. We talk on teh phone, text, and on cam. Its a sticky thing to get yourself into, and sometimes it doesnt work. But it can. if you wanna talk more about it, and maybe get advice from eachother, you can add me on msn, or email me. marty_420@live.ca. The best of luck to you and your potential new love.

Marty.

Answer #6

I’m in the exact same situation! The second I saw my online girlfriend’s username, (Which, by the way, I will NOT mention for the sake of anonymity) I knew I had a bit of a crush on her. Eventually, I found out she felt the same way, and we started going out. As one might expect, it was REALLY awkward at first–I hated that!–but it quickly passed. I’m currently living in South Eastern North America (Around Georgia, Florida, that area. I won’t say where, just to keep myself safe–you never know when it’s on the internet…) and her profile says she lives in Canada. I REALLY REALLY wanna meet her in real life, but there’s a LOT of problems: 1: I’m 14, so I don’t live on my own or have a driver’s license. My parents would have to take me, and I’m scared about how they’d react if I told them about this… 2: Assuming she DOES live in Canada, that’s over 100,000 miles apart!!! How the hell am I supposed to arrange for a risk-free face-to-face meeting with her without spending $100’s? 3: Because of 2, I live far away from her. How can I POSSIBLY take control of the situation and make it so she and I can meet in person on a weekly basis? 4: I made my online avvy so that it resembles what I HOPE to become one day, not what I currently am. I’m therefore more than a little worried that she’ll be disappointed in the real me…

       If anybody can help me, PLEASE PLEASE respond!!! I will check this page until the end of 2011 in order to make sure people have a chance to try and help. Also, don't try telling me the old "She claims to be a teenage girl, but how do you know she's not a 35 year old perverted man?" lecture, I've heard it enough!
        Signed,
                Gammaman
Answer #7

its very possible to meet a guy online and start to like him the same type of thing happened to me this summer. we were about to go out, and then suddenly he just started acting really weird and standoffish. if I were you, id be really really really careful and meet the guy before anything gets to serious online, like it did with me and my exguy. it gets wayyy to sticky online to get serious, but if you meet him it will be fine

Answer #8

well theres lots of things you have to worry about..yeah he could be a creap and wierd. plus he also could be playing you. he might not care if he ever meets you a and if he does he succeded in his goal. he also might be in a relationship with someone else and just playing mind games with you.. now if that isnt the case then take time to build a stronger connection and see if it truely is worth your while to go visit him or have him come visit you if he feels the same you do. so if you do end up meeting each other then after the first date and things hit of well and sparks fly a bit. then give it another go and go on more dates..just dont ever rush into anything or get rushed into something your not sure of..he might be the man of your dreams or just some guy..only time will tell

Answer #9

well theres lots of things you have to worry about..yeah he could be a creap and wierd. plus he also could be playing you. he might not care if he ever meets you a and if he does he succeded in his goal. he also might be in a relationship with someone else and just playing mind games with you.. now if that isnt the case then take time to build a stronger connection and see if it truely is worth your while to go visit him or have him come visit you if he feels the same you do. so if you do end up meeting each other then after the first date and things hit of well and sparks fly a bit. then give it another go and go on more dates..just dont ever rush into anything or get rushed into something your not sure of..he might be the man of your dreams or just some guy..only time will tell

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