Should I have a baby when we both want one?

ok,lets back up a lil your 14 you dont need a baby yet you should wait till your at least 22…and your boyfriend dosent want a baby all he wants is to get in your pants if you want to you can and go ahead but im just worning you he will leave you as soon as you are pregnant…so dont do it cause if you dont wait your baby isnt going to have the best futher

Well if you both want a baby then think seriously about it and think of what will happen and if that’s figured out post more abput it ill be glad to see/hear how its going

u want a baby? no u dont!! baby’s r cute but they are hell!!

im the same age and my boyfriend and I WANT a baby but we know we cant HAVE one at the moment.

do what you feel right

Children can’t take care of children…i’m 15 and i always wanted a baby when i was small but it was just a phase and i learned from other people’s mistakes. a few girls in school got pregnant and they had to drop out of school and their parents had to financially support the child…thats not fair. wait, you have your whole life to live, think about having babies when your ready to settle down and give of all your time and energy.

You are too young. Enjoy being single first. Finish college.

I DONT THINK you SHOULD HAVE A BABY GIRL GRADUATE FIRST BELEIVE ME I BEEN THROW THAT BUT IT WAS HARD I ALREADY NOW WATS UP SO IF I WERE you I WOULDNT IM TELLING you GIRL IM SIXTEEN …I KNOW…

u gaot tke cre of it 24/7 en your stil at skl so I wud w8 til im 18 or sumat…itl stres ya out koz of itz vryin en you kant wake up in da mornin feedin it koz u’ll b tiad…your stil a teen…eniwy its ilegal if unda 16 or sumat

I know how you feel only my boyfriend doesnt wantone :( and well first of al think about it

No NO NO! u don’t want s-e-x!! at 14 it sounds fun but no!

I want to be the childs father

no one knows if your ready more then you do, if you want it and your boyfriend does to then have it you wont regret it a baby is a blessing no matter what… congrats and I hope everything goes well… good luck sweetie

I can’t even believe how sad this plea is. You want a baby so that it will complete your life. That is the most selfish, most rude thing I have evr heard a child say. You are a CHILD. You raised your little sister, good for you. But you don’t know how she will turn out? You can’t even spell. Having a child, you would ruin that childs life, not being able to give it a proper home, not being able to give it everything it wants like music lessons, dance lessons, all the mothers will look down on your because CHILDREN DO NOT have CHILDREN. If you want a baby so bad, you will wait, because you will ruin that child’s life. You want a baby because it is convient for you and you want it because it will make YOU feel better. It’s ALL ABOUT YOU! How SELFISH can you be? Enjoy the life you have! And live it to prepare for the future. So you can be at an age where you can support and love this child. You don’t have any life experience at the age of 14, I know you think you do and you are probably reading this thinking what the HELL is she talking about. But you know what? Do not make the same mistake as other people. You may think that this will complete you, but you have some serious issues to cover with yourself. You need to think things through and start thinking about other people and how YOUR ACTIONS will result in their misery. How do you think your parents will react. When you have this child would you not want her to grow up, get an education, become successful, and then find fall into that whole category of love, marriage and children? If you had a daughter, would YOU want her to have a child when she is only a baby, a baby at 14 years old. You may not know it now, but you are so young. So young indeed, I thought I was so old and so mature at my age, but when you look back when you are a year older, you realize that you weren’t and you’ve wasted another year of your childhood thinking and acting like a full blown adult.

You will ruin that child’s life, and you will ruin your life. That baby won’t have a sturdy background, and what if any child of yours could be the next einstein or star? You’re going to rob your child of a good future because it is good for you?

Think about what your doing, and WHO your thinking about? That child will grow up and have a mind of it’s own. It’s not all fun and games, that baby may depend on you and love you and give you joy for the first while, but as it grows up it will see your mistake, and may even loathe you for it. Don’t have a baby because you want someone to love you, you’re looking in the wrong place. Your Heavenly Father loves you more than you could imagine, and He wants the best for you and your future children. And if you want a baby so bad, and you want to love that child so bad, and you just want to hold your future children and give them everything and help them to grow up successful…then, you will wait. Because that it a strue mothers love. Waiting until you can provide until the best.

Wait, it will be the best decision you ever made, I promise.

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I see that you asked your question 2 months ago, and your probably sick and tired of hearing everyone say NO WAY! ARE YOU CRAZY?

Well here is my answer. Though it is still “NO!” I must tell you why. I don’t know your home situation, but for me, when I was 14, I felt the same as you. family morals and fear of becoming an outcast in my religion and family friends kept me away from making the biggest mistake of my life. I waited until I was 25 to have kids. I have had so many medical problems that started because of having kids that I am now obese and can’t lose the weight. I have thyroid problems and have to be on medication for the rest of my life. My body is acting like I’m 70 years old…truely I can relate in conversations to these older women. I have 3 children now and another on the way. I’ve had severe depression for the past 6 years, and can’t seem to get out of it.

You experiences may not be the same but, what if they were, would you really want to experience all of that at once? I found out years later that my need or desire for a child at such a young age was because I wanted to be loved. My family was so preoccupied with other things. my mother chose to work because she wanted THINGS and left me to take care of her children (my siblings) the youngest was 6 months old when I was 15. She grew up calling me mommy, and that made my mom mad, but she was never around. I was also molested by my bio father when I was 5…I blocked it from my memory and didn’t find out or remember until much later in life…my reasons for wanting a baby was because I thought that would make me feel loved and wanted.

Several of the people on here are right when they say the guy will take off. though he may tell you now that he wont, he promises…he’s there for you and how much he loves you…time changes everything…especially when the boy doesn’t have to carry the baby for 9 months. I really hope that you listed to all the counsel given to you here. seek counseling and get to the bottom of the reasons you want a baby.

Enjoy your life, I wish I would have gotten too…but I never had a childhood. I started watching my siblings at 8 years old…by myself after school…including putting them to bed…ENJOY LIFE! (smile)

Look, you may know a little bit about raising a child, but you JUST are blossiming out of childhood. But this is kind of selfish for you two. Do you know how much money a baby would cost you? The hospital bills, the food, the diapers, the cribs, the toys, the cloths, the formula. There’s no way you could afford that! Your 14! Your not even old enough to get a job! And your still to young, you’d be ruining your whole life. You may think it would complete it, but you couldn’t go to school or get a decent job and your family we think of you as a sl.ut because you did it at a young age and got pregnet. And if you did get pregnet, there are very, VERY large chances you’ll die during childbirth, not to mention the baby. What happens if your pregnet with TWINS? My brothers girlfriend got pregnet with twins, she got depressed and didn’t want them anymore!!! My mother and father my brother and I had to watch them for 2 months until she finally took them back. She doesn’t have a job and never watches them well today and my brother and her are together still. And he needs to pay child support! That b.itch should be paying it! See, people could hate you like that if you end up like her. Plus, your 14. 14 year olds shouldn’t even be having se.x! What happened until waiting for the right person. You may think he is, but he might not be Mr. Right. Plus I doubt he has a job that could support a family. I hope you don’t hate me for saying this, but you must be a phyco if you think you could have a baby and live a completed life. Your young and don’t ruin the best years of your life with a baby that can’t let you go to parties, with friends, or on dates or to school! Please, listen, and I hope this helps.

you shouldnt just b/c wat happens if ur boyfriend doesnt want to support u and than u r on ur own. i wouldnt just because u could regret it. and wat would ur parents say. but if i were u i would not

I am 21, I had my daughter when I was 19 , pregnant when I was 18, she is two now. and WOW let me tell you, I love my daughter TO THE MOON & BACK , but you DO NOT want a kid yet! Trust & believe , it is not as easy as you may think , I understand you raised your sister for two years, but hun, when its your own, dont think you can just go out and hang out with your friends or do something special with your boyfriend, because you’ll be stuck at home all the time and have to listen to eveyone’s storys on how much fun they had when they went out. Having a child is a beautiful thing, but If I learned anything from having mine at 19 its to wait… Wish I would have, shes here now and no I would not change that for anything, but sometimes I do wish I would have been more responsible about the situation and not got pregnant, and how long have you been with your boyfriend?… I was with her dad for 2 years before I got pregnant, and yes he promised to be there no matter what, but he left when she was a month old to go back to his ex, whom didnt have a child so he could be free to do what he wishes, now I’m raising her by myself, without childsupport b/c the lazy SOB wont work!, its very frustrating, and I even got blessed with my daughter, she is the ideal kid, and always has been when she was a new born too ( sleepin all the way thru the night since the 2nd day she was home, healthy, doesnt cry much… etc.) but its still hard! AS HELL!

Hope this woke you up a little bit, you may think you want one now, but MARK MY WORDDD if you do, your gunna wish you waited. Promise!

At 14? And how on earth do you plan on providing for this child on a middle school education? I’m 19, and while I don’t have a child, I do enough babysitting. It’s not the same thing. When it’s yours, you can’t give it back. How do you plan on buying its diapers? formula? food? doctors appointments (if it’s not covered by insurance)? You need to finish school and get a decent paying job before you even THINK about having a child. Think about how many diapers it will go through in just 1 day, and how many come in a pack, and much they cost. Then think about how fast they grow. Because it’s pretty darn fast. You will CONSTANTLY need clothes for it. This is a HUGE thing. And you will then be responsible for another LIFE. The baby is helpless and will rely on you and your boyfriend to do EVERYTHING for it. However, you’re only 14 (and I’m going to assume your boyfriend is the same age). One of you will need to take care of it, and put this new life before ANYTHING. Forget about sleeping. You won’t get much of it, because the baby will wake you MULTIPLE times during the night because it is hungry, or needs a diaper change, or maybe it heard something that woke it. You need to get out of bed and go see why it’s crying.

Seriously, wait. Finish school. Get a job. You’re way too young! You’re going to mess up your life. It’s so much harder to go BACK to school than it is just to finish.

I know you want to give this child the best life possible, so you really need to think this through.

cristid, You are 14 years old how are you going to provide for your baby? Do you plan on staying in school and graduating? If so who is going to care for this baby while your in school? And your too young to get a job so how are you going to provide for your baby now?

Are you prepared for the every two hour feedings? The getting up in the middle of the night for feedings,diaper changes? How about when the baby gets sick? Dealing with a sick baby is tough. What about dr bills and all the other expenses? Are you going to take care of your baby while all your friends are out having a good time? Or are you just going to throw the baby on your parents while you go out and do whatever?

Fact is you are just a child yourself,not even close to graduating and too young to get a job so you can’t provide for this child. Your parents might but not you.

lilgangsta it’s kids like you that’s what’s wrong with this world. When you have kids you should be the one taking care of them. Providing all of the things that they need. They need to come first. All that partying and bull crap should be over. The kids need to come first. You can’t depend on everybody else to raise the kid for you.

You really sound like my nephews gf. She wanted a baby because his ex was pregnant with his baby. She got pregnant and she has her mother and grandmother taking care of her for them. They are living in my parents old house and she doesn’t pack my nephews lunch for him to take to work or fix dinner when he comes home. She doesn’t clean the house at all and never has that baby. He’s almost just as bad. They want new cars and go out every weekend but they don’t want to take care of THEIR RESPONSIBLITY.

There is more to life then going out and having fun. You want to do that then don’t bring kids into this world for everyone else to take care of.

OK LOOK GURL I REALLY THINK YOU SHOULD WAITE.. A BABY IS ALOT OF WORK AND WHEN THEY GET OLDER THEY R EVEN MORE WORK, I MEAN LOOK AT YOUR SELF YOU R PROLLY STILL ASKING YOUR MOM 4 MONEY TO GO TO THE MALL, THE MOVIES OR WUT NOTS.. U SAID A BABY WOULD MAKE YOUR LIFE FEEL COMPLETE.. TRUST ME IT WONT.. I BEEN BABY SIT MY SISTERS KIDS FOR THE SUMMER THEY R 2 AND 5 AND IM 17 AND I CAN BARELY HANDLE THEM FOR 8 HOURS A DAY TOGETHER, AT THE END OF THE DAY IM READY TO GET RIDE OF THEM SO I CAN LAYDOWN AND GO TO SLEEP.. I DONT SEE MY BOYFRIEND AS MUCH CUASE IM TIRED AND READY TO GO TO BED.. AND THEY GO HOME SO I CANT AMGINE WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE A BABY ALL DAY EVERY DAY FOR 18 YEARS..I MEAN I KNOW WUT YOUR TALKING ABOUT YOU WANNA FEEL COMPLETE .. I DID TO ABOUT 6 MONTHS BACK I WANTED TO BE LOVED BY MY BOYFRIEND.. AND YEAH I WANTED A BABY CUZ OF THE FACT HE WAS LEAVEING ME TO GO IN TO THE NAVY.. I THOUGHT IT WOULD MAKE HIM STAY WELLI WOULDNT OF AND I DIDNT RELIZE THAT HE WASNT GOING IN THERE 4 HIS SELF HE WAS GOING THERE 2 MAKE A BETTER LIFE 4 EACH OF US.. JUST WAITE TILL YOU GET OLDER AND I KNOW U HATE TO HEAR THIS BUT U REALLY DONT KNOW WUT LOVE IS.. MEAT NEW PEOPLE AND YOU’LL SEE WUT IM TALKING ABOUT

Having a baby is a HUGE decision and no matter what people say, babies need more than love. A lot more. They need a home. Do you have your own home? (Im assuming you live with your parents. Do you think its fair to bring a baby into their house? It is THEIR house not yours). They take money and lots of it. Do you both have jobs to pay for the clothes, diapers, food, daycare, doctors bills. I get the feeling that you are expecting your parents to “Help you out” and thats not fair. Not to your parents and not to the baby.

You have a lot of good breeding years in you. Most women stay fertile until their mid-40’s. There are things you are going to want to do with your life and you are not going to have the freedom to do these things with a baby. You cant just get rid of a baby when you get bored or when you have other things to do. They keep growing and they need more and more and more from you. Remember they dont stay babies! Think about it. Do you want to be a 24 year old woman with a 10 year old to care for?

Slow down. You are 14 yrs old and 1 guarantee you that your boyfriend is not going to be the love of your lofe. There is whole world out there to discover. Dont go screwing it up!

I waited until 1 was 32 to have a child and Im so glad I did.

You don’t want a baby yet. I thought that I wanted a baby when I was 14 and I tried and I have a 3 year old child now who is legally blind, and was four months pre-mature. I thought that it would be so easy and I have been struggling every since. It’s not taking care of her that is hard. That is the easy part and the only part that people seem to think about. The hard part is finding the money to do all of these things. Luckily, my babys daddy is now my husband and he has done a good job of working to keep us taken care of.

JUST THINK ABOUT.

And normally, the person that you think that you are in love with when you are 14 is not the person that you will be with later on in life!

look girl…I htought I wanted a baby 2 but when I sat down with my boyfirned an actually looked…we didnt want one then…we needed to wait a few years an guess what happened?? we wound up breaking up because he found someone else imagine if I woulda listen to him an got pregnant…my life would be total hell!!!

LISTEN 2 ME IM 15 WITH TOO CHILDREN SUMMER AND JJ BUT ITS COMPLETE HELL I WAS 13 AND PREGNANT JJ’S DAD DIDNT WANT THE BABY AND MOVED AWAY AND LEFT ME BEING IN LABOUR FOR 38HRS WAS TERRIBLE AND AT 14 I HAD A NEW BOYFRIEND WHO LOVED ME AND JJ BUT WE WERE DRUNK HAD S-E-X 9 MONTHS LATER SUMMER WAS BORN BUT U NO HOW IT ENDED ME BEING IN A CHILDRENS HOME NO BOYFRIEND NO DAD FOR THE KIDS AND I DONT EVEN LIVE WITH MY CHILDREN IVE BECOME SO DEPRESSED I TURNED 2 DRINKING SMOKING DRUGS AND PARTYS AS MUCH AS I LOVE MY KIDS I WISH I COULD TURN BACK TIME.DOTN DO IT!

What are you smoking??

You are 14 and want a baby? Are you wanting to throw your whole life away?

see if you have a baby you gain weight and then you cant fit into all those cool clothes you have or hang out with your friends because you will be too busy taking care of a child.

Not to mention you are 14 years old, you arent old enough to get a job ( a decent job) that will make enough money to support a baby.

How would you feel when you have to buy diapers instead of clothes or make-up.

You are 14 and still a child and dont need to be taking care of one.

Finish school, go to college, get settled in a good job, find the right man and then have kids.

for now GET A KITTEN!!

no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no def not i know i wanted a baby at 14 too i wanna kill it now joke i would never kill her there cute and all but.. alot to take care of i mean anyoe can change and feed a baby most ppl can get up in te middle of the night too but whos goin to pay for it? dipers and food and a bed and doctors .. GIVING BIRTH OMG lol dont recmend it but do wat u want to..

Honey you are only 14 years old and you know that you and your boyfriend are not prepared to start a family at this age. When you have a baby it will probably effect your childs life and yours too! Because you will have to miss certian days of school because its sick or like you will be super tired and stuff. you should wait until you find the right guy and get married first but choose smartly..Also, if you have a baby at this age, the reason why it will effect your childs life is because it will be right up to your age. only 14 years apart isnt right. wait until your atleast 18.. or even older. that would be better. make good choices and be careful. ok?

you only THINK you want a baby. i am a teen too and have no desire for kids any time soon. you have your entire life ahead of you. high school, college, a career to start. when you throw a baby into the mix things will fall apart. who will care for it while your at school? and how do you know your boy friends serious. think.. will this relations ship last forever? will he stand by you through the entire prosses? or will he run as soon as he hears your expecting? you have ALOT of time to think this through. but wait, and make sure what you choose is the write decision. talk to your parents about your feelings, believe it or not, they DO know whats best.

Wow! Don’t listen to these people. If you want to have a baby, have one. Just make sure you and your boyfriend really love eachother because you don’t want him to leave. Its your body and your life. Do what will make you happy! I’m 15 and I might be pregnant right now, and if I’m not me and my boyfriend have talked about it and we’re going to keep trying. But yeah, as long as you can raise it and keep it safe and you REALLY want it. I say go for it!! [: Goodluck

You know what’s fun about helping to raise someone elses kid? Being able to give it back when they get all fussy. When you have a kid of your own it’s different. You’ll always be the one waking up in the early morning to feed the kid, to change diapers, to do everything. I think you should really think things out. Think about the money, time, love and care the baby needs.

It’s your life and ultimetley your decison. I just think you should think things out throughly.

Haviing A Baby Would Be Nice but if your 14 its a little young even if you rasied up your little sister because its just not all about the rasing either because your young & havent left school ,& you wont have a job & your familly wont allwayz be there to baby sit when your want to go dancing have outtings with your mates I think you should wait a little longer till your left school because your going to want to go out clubing & everything wont you?

You really shouldn’t have a baby this young! I’ve always felt maternal and since the age if 10 wanted a baby! The kids I babysit I have been with them changing there nappys since I was 8! I always used to be like you, thinking it would be perfect! But you think about when your older! Renee, a women a can talk about eveything to give me a reality check! When your 18 you baby will be 4! You would miss out on a hole chunk of your life! Just stay young! don;t rush things! you have the rest of your life to make big Desisions like this! I know it’s your choice and you have to do what you feel is right! But don’t rush things! You could end up ruining your life!

u want a baby to complete your life well ok then you will not say the same thing when your belly is big as a mountain and your 14 you should worrying about school not a baby times are so hard nw with the recession and everything just want till your married where you dont have to run down your baby daddy for child support

sooo I wana know did you do it or not??? this was posted 6 months ago… a lot of things couldve happen… you and your b.f still together or were all these pp right???

^ya not a retard cause ya want to have a damn baby. Music is my boyfriend, get respect for people who think differently than you, its her decision, not yours or anyone elses.

I understand you have experiance with your sister but your too young. you should wait untill your at least 18 and have a stable job

Oh no you do not need a baby right now I know you have heard this alot but you are way to young !!! Trust me take it from someone who has been there done that please dont do that !!!

i want to tell you something no don’t have a baby just yet.your to young and he dosen’t want it trust i am 18 i had my first when i was 16.and my second when i was 17 its hhard.taking care of a baby by urself.watch when u have the baby hes going to bail out on u don’t trust it…okay much love…

i would wait till your still a little older cause ur still in school and having a baby could affect not doing good in school and then when ur older you’ll still find yourself working at McDonalds or some other grocery store or fast food place. you don’t want that. also having a baby at such a young age can effect your baby also.

im not gunno tell u wat to do because im not u but if ur happy and u feel that its the appropret time then u do so

look shawty u 14 and want a baby?? u may know how to raise one but its hard as hell to actually do it me im 15 and i gotta 1 yr old and i love that kid to death but its hard as hell to raise and support him so i think you should wait

Nope you don’t want no kids

it wont always be a baby remember that.

Ok, well first ask yourself this question, “How will I provide for the baby?” You should consider your choices before you do “it”. Are you sure you’ll want to do this? When you have a baby, you will not be able to hang out with friends, or even your boyfriend. Also, you don’t even know if your parents are okay with this. They could be against it and might not help you. And how will you continue your education? Some of my friends got pg and I barely even see them anymore. So before you go all touch, touch, feel, feel, please consider your choices. It would be better for you and your family.

A baby doesn’t make your life complete. Chances are, if you have a baby now…I hate to say it this way…but it will make your life worse. And what happens when you and your boyfriend break up and you have a kid to take care of- alone. You have to think ahead. I think I might want a kid too, and I’m 21. But I’m not just going to go have one. I’m going to wait until I’m married and financially able to take care of another person.

I got pregnant at 14 and has my son at 15. I would say from expenice that this might seem like it would complete your life but trust me, you will only be making your, your boyfriends life and the life of your baby a lot harder than it would be if you would wait. Not to metion all of the thing that happen you your body so young. There is nothing sexy and nice about strech marks and saggy boobs at 16. Not to mention any of the weight that you can’t get rid of.

wake up call!babys are not just about changing diapers…and your boyfriend is just saying that so he could screw you…hes 14 he got no papers,he have no job,no house,how can you depend on him…wait till youre older

sooo I wana know did you do it or not??? this was posted 6 months ago… a lot of things couldve happen… you and your b.f still together or were all these pp right???

you are pretty young. its not that I dont think a young girl would not know how to take care of a baby, but I dont see how you could care for one without having a good job. how old is your boyfriend? if he’s not old enough to work, he’s not going to be much help… if he IS old enough to work, he COULD end up in jail for getting you pregnant. theres a lot to complicate things in your situation.

Your body is going through a change and you’re getting a maternal instinct. So you will have a desire to have babies. Alot of people say wait till your married to have sex, but you should REALLY wait till your married to have a baby. Because then the husband really cant bail out on you.

i know babies are cute , but they can ruin ur life , babies cost ALOT of money and you’ll need money to support yourself too , i hope this helped you , take carre , and god bless you

Hey chick, I understand that your love for you boyfriend and your natural instincts are telling you to have a baby.. I have always been the same way as you - but thankfully I realised that by being properly prepared is the best way to love my future baby. Don’t you want the best for little him or her? I don’t agree with what a few other people have said about needing to go through several relationships first - who wants all the baggage and hurt?!! If you love your boyfriend, stick with him and grow up with him, stay in school and figure out what you are going to do to make sure your baby is well provided for - bascially do everything to prepare for and make sure your baby is going to have everything you want for them. If you can’t do that then I am sorry you are too selfish at the moment (and so you should be at 14!!) to be as selfless as you will need to be to have a baby

You do not want a baby! How in the world would you provide for it?! Your boyfriend would have to work or you BOTH would have to work. And remember, your parents might not be there for you and where would you live? What if your boyfriend’s parents are totally against it? You are also losing your virginity…if you haven’t done “it” before. So think about your choices and the possible outcomes.

hey i think alot of people that have posted comments or whatever are old school n dont kno how the world “works” these days..becuz im fourteen and i kno watcha goin through cuz ive been there n kno how it feels.. best advice: if u really want the kid&you r fur sure ur boyfriend will take care of it&you can care for it properly&buy diapers&buy all the stuff it needs, go for it! …just dont bring sumthen into the world u cant handle..

n u dont have to give up ur life there is sumthen called babysitters!!

u gaot tke cre of it 24/7 en your stil at skl so I wud w8 til im 18 or sumat…itl stres ya out koz of itz vryin en you kant wake up in da mornin feedin it koz u’ll b tiad…your stil a teen…eniwy its ilegal if unda 16 or sumat

I have a 2 y/o son. you dont want a baby.. they’re cute and fun when you can give them back when you are too stressed out.. or need a break.. when they’re your own child you cannot pawn them off.. im only 18 and I wish I could have gone back. I realize I may not be able to give my son the ebst life but im trying. its hard. but trust me no you dont! just wait!!

Well don’t have a baby wait to you get out of college . Ppppllleeeaaassseee don’t have a baby. It may seem sweet to be with a baby etc . But iits not who’s going to get diappers for 2 years? Who’s going to take care of the baby? Who’s going to teach the baby how to talk? Etc My sister did the same mistake… She can’t take care of him or herself. She was pregnant at 14… Now sheis 17 and doesnt have a job she .lives with us. The father left when he found out she was pregnant. Ttttrrruuusssttt mmmeee your life is going to go down . Its going to hell. your faMily is going to change. Sorry

well if he loves you so much why doesnt he ask permission to marry you and THEN have the baby…but just so ya know…your a retard! baby;s are extra baggage and you KNOW you dont want to be with that man all your life so I would forget the STUPID idea K

No, you absolutely should not have a baby right now. If you really want a baby, then do what is best for the baby, wait.

At 14, there is no way you will be able to pay for a baby.

Are you still in school? If so, then how would you care for a baby if you are at school at day? If you’re not in school, then what do you have to offer and teach a baby?

It’s ok to want a baby, but you have be mature about it. You can’t be selfish. No matter how much you want a baby, you have to wait until you can actually care for that baby.

Okay, it depends if you have a stabal enviorment. if your living with your mom then you should confront her with the idea. But, you are just 14. you are still a baby yourself. Rasing a child is a big respossabilaty. if you strongly think that having a baby is what you want then go for it. but remeber…you cant undo it once you have that baby. from the looks of it your real sereous. that is a plus.but your young. if I was you I would take the time and live your life. you have a long life to live…so try not to grow up too fast. Good luck and I wish you the best.

a baby shouldn’t have to come into this world with such a big job…making your life complete. it is not fair for someone so little and innocent to be saddled with that huge undertaking. there are already enough children born each day, too many in fact. I hope that you think about this before acting on it.

I’m not even going to say don’t have one, because you’ve gotten 42 answers thus far, and prolly 39-40 of them are NOs and 2 are YES’s. That’s a lot of NO’s my dear.

well weit a lil I have a lil bro and sis I tack care of them all day it can be fun some times and see how long will he stay for the baby I hate to say this but he may just do it and never talk to you angen that how some guys are but if he do not you should be happy that he still love because you are beautiful no lie you are nick no lie so a lil longer but if you feel like it now then go for it

I love your passion and excitement. You have so much love to give that you want to have a baby. That’s awesome.

You said that a baby would make your life complete. Why would you say that? I’ve met many people who think a baby would make their marriage complete. In fact, having a baby is the worst thing for a marriage. It makes the marriage worse. But these people think the baby will make the marriage better.

Similarly, you think a baby will make your life complete because it’s the next step forward. And it is one kind of step forward, but school is another kind of step forward, so is college, so is romance with your boyfriend, so is starting a daycare or being an author or being a teacher, so are many other things.

If that baby comes, you will suddenly lose 50 hours out of every week. So you’ll have to make tough choices between school or baby; boyfriend or school; boyfriend or baby. The reason you will is because you can only dedicate a finite amount of your time. You only have a certain number of hours. So if you really want to make tough time management decisions at 14 that most of us make at 22, that’s your right. But the experiences you will lose include things like: Prom, Spring Break, HS Senior Day. Many teen moms don’t get those things because they had to make tough choices, and they had to put the baby above all those things, sometimes even their boyfriend.

What matters most is that you posted your question on here. You are looking for answers and asking the people around you for an opinion. I always listen to other people’s advice because if they all say the same thing, then I’m probably making a mistake.

i am 14 years old and am due in february. I know I will succeed at giving my baby the best life he or she can have, and if I can do it you can too, girl.

Hiya..x! Well I recently asked myself that 2 but I got advice saying well “Don’t let your hormones trick you!” and everytime I think I want a baby I think wait a min no I dont because up all night and money would b so bad! Try some babysitting and if any of your mates have a baby Explain how you feel and ask them if you could possibly stay with them for a wee while. Trust me it will put you off for a wee while. Hope this helps …XxXxXxXxXxXx

I understand I am 13 and I realy want a baby but I said I wouldent have sex untill am 14 and if I were think is your boyfriend relieble will he look after you , I started my period when I was 11 and I have wanted a baby since I know how you feel all the kidz in sch say id be a great mum they dont konw that they are stabbing me with words I want a baby so much.- go a head

Most girls have that maternal instinct. Why do you think they make dolls for little kids? YOU ARE NOT READY FOR A FREAKING BABY!! Yes, they may be cute, but they are difficult, and will change your life forever. Can you handle that? No more partying (although you’re 14, doubt you’ve ever even been to a party), no more hanging out with your friends for countless hours, no more video games or whatever it is you do in your spare time.

The baby would come first in your life above everything and everyone else.

You’re 14, barely even in highschool. Still think it’s a good idea? It’s not like you can financially support a child without your parents help. Even with their help it will be a struggle and most likely downhill battle.

Be smart, please. Before you try to have a kid, you might want to get married. Oh, yeah, that requires that you wait another 10 years or so.

Its really up to you, yeah fourteen is young and maybe not the best age. But it is your life and if you and your boyfriend want to have a baby then go for it.

All im going to say is im fifteen. When I was fourteen, I was having sex with my ex boyfriend and ended up having a miscarriage, never used protection. This may sound so bad but Im glad I didnt have that baby, I would have messed up my life and its life, AND my ex’s life.

You could realize you are making a HUGE mistake, but that is your mistake to make nobody elses and Maybe by the time you have a baby, adoption is always another option.

Make this decision on your own, no offense to anyone else on here, but the only people that have any say in that decision would be you and your boyfriend.

your a dumb trick.. you cant even spell advice.. how in the world do you expect to raise a child.. how about you friggen go to school first, graduate, and then run your dirty mouth about such things.. slow down! AND.. trust me.. dont have a child because your boyfriend will leave you.. cause he is most likely just as niave.

I don’t think you are ready for a baby. A baby is permanent. A baby needs, deserves, a mother and a father, who are committed to each other, who are able to support the child’s need as he or she grows up. A baby deserves to be loved for the gift of the baby him- or herself, not for what they give the mother or father.

You need to grow much more yourself until you are ready for a life-long commitment, for the self-less love a baby deserves. I know you feel grown up now. We all do. Then, a few years later, we all look back and think how immature we were. (I don’t mean just as teens. This happened in my 20s, my 30s, and my 40s. It would happen longer, I suspect, but I haven’t getten there yet!

I beg you, for your sake, and for the sake of your child (or children), please, please, Please: wait on having a baby.

Dear jazzybabes1, well your life is not complete because you still have school, career, several relationships and life to live yet. Something is missing in you at the moment and you think this will give you what’s missing. But it isn’t a baby that’s missing there is something else missing. You need to seek out counselling..talk with a school counsellor or make an appointment at the health clinic to see a counsellor there..believe me they will have you seeing what you really need in no time. Sue..good luck

hi hon please dont do it yet …you have your whole life ahead of you.yes babys are cute, but the reality of having one of your own is quite different, please its not easy,could you manage sleepless nights?and i dont mean a few my son is now 2 and he still wakes at night, endless feeds.nappie changes? not being able to go out, when you want where you want,with who you want,its so exhausting being a mum mentally & phisicly, once you have kids their your main concern and responsibility,so please wait and live your life first …

Children can’t take care of children…i’m 15 and i always wanted a baby when i was small but it was just a phase and i learned from other people’s mistakes. a few girls in school got pregnant and they had to drop out of school and their parents had to financially support the child…thats not fair. wait, you have your whole life to live, think about having babies when your ready to settle down and give of all your time and energy.

Also.. you will NOT have the same boyfriend for very long. I went through several boyfriends going through highschool.. not because I was a slut, or couldn’t commit. That was just it - I COULD commit and wanted to be in a mature relationship, and I’m sorry but guys your age aren’t ready to handle all of that. Most guys even my age aren’t ready. So don’t get lost in “puppy love” thinking you’re going to be with this guy forever. Cause you won’t. Guarantee you.

Are you crazy? You Do Not want a baby at 14 years old and neither does your boyfriend. All he wants is to get you to sleep with him is all. If you go off and get pregnant I guarantee you will regret it because you will not be a good parent that young, you will want to go out and hang with your friends and party, and you will never have anything nor will your child. Oh and your boyfriend will dump you like a hot potatoe too. Do not have a baby till you are mature and old enough to know what you are doing. I could go on all day about it but answer to your question is a huge NO.

Ok you should read one of those teen pregnancy books.. it will tell teens storys of becoming a mom and how I effected their lifes.. + you should think what could happen at birth and the fact just you have raised a sibling … so have I but I want to enjoy my life with out having a baby … you should wait till you older