How do I get my girlfriend to stay with me?

Here’s my problem. I cut and I told my girlfriend that I cut. I showed her a pic of what I used to do ( I have stop cutting now so yea its all good with that) but she showed her friend and her friend thinks that my girlfriend and I should not go out because I am not right for her. But then her friend sent the pic to a bunch of people and now they know and are given my girlfriend a hard time. Now my girlfriend said she cant talk to any one involved that includes me. What do I do? I love her to death but if she can’t talk to because of this I don’t think she loves me as much. if you could help that would be great

Answer #1

I agree with locoluna.

Also, your girlfriend is kind of weak. I know you love her and all that but let’s face the facts, she’s weak.

Personally, I could never stand dating a weak person who allowed people to make decisions for them. Doesn’t that bug the holy crap out of you? I know it’s hard to detach from people once you do attach, but seriously. She’s weak. I woulnd’t worry about her “friends” so much, they’re just looking out for her. But you know she showed them those pictures not from a sense of pride over her awesome boyfriend, but in more of an “oh my god, can you believe he used to do this? Look at this picture he showed me.” and her friends went apesh*t about it and then she’s like, “Oh. Ummmm, well, I guess maybe they’re right and I shouldn’t talk to you anymore.” And maybe that’s not a bad thing–maybe your pictures showed a part of you she was not cool with and her friends helped her realize that.

Cutting is off putting to people who don’t do it. It would be obvious if you don’t do it anymore–as you would have no fresh cuts. But I think part of the problem here is that you are identifying yourself with these pictures of someone you are not anymore. That doesn’t really make a lot of sense. Sure, tell a girl about it after dating for awhile, but I wouldn’t keep the pictures online or show them around anymore. Even if you don’t do it anymore, people will indentify you with it as long as you do. That’s just scary to people who don’t understand.

Answer #2

ok sweetie if i were your gf and you showd me them whatever well i woukd be a good gf and keep it to myself not show my bf whatever i woukld help you through it al and be there for you. if shes not talking to you then i think she just wants you to cry tio her and be al depresed over it you know what i mean she wants you to be like come on baby please whatever hope you understand. well i use to cut i was always depressed but i had no one to ever talk to and i still dont well i do but i mean like someone close. but i think its so cold of her to do you like that she knows you have maybe somthing wrong and all shes doing is making it worst. your not siko or crazy ok you seem like a nice guy with a lotta love to give. but dont kiss her ass becouse thats maybe what she wants. i dont know i hpe im not makig you mad but if she truelly loved you shed be by your side all the way no matter what and not ask so many questions and understand and leave her dumbass friends outof it. thats what i think. but if you ever need anyone to ever talk to im here for you. im new at this so i hpe i dont forget my password if i do heres my # call anytime day night 1740-645-7353. love Rebecca Lynn

Answer #3

Well everyone is prob saying to her…your bfs a psycho or something leave him! you shouldnt be parading around pics of yourself when you cut, its not something to brag about for attention. Im glad to hear you stopped cutting, but now you just need to give everyone and esp your gf time to process this info, keep reassuring her that you dont cut anymore and for gods sake get those pics back and rip them up! or delete them from your comp asap!

Answer #4

OK I think if your girlfriend wont talk to you, she really doesnt care about you as much as you care about her. And if that is the case. Find a new girlfriend, your better off with out someone you can not trust to be loyal to you even with stuff like that!

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