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I brood a lot, I think I am really dark even though everyone thinks of me as this happy rey of sunshine I'm really not. My mom gets drunk a whole lot, I have had to deal with that practically everyday when I come back from school. I hate her for doing this to me, I love getting away from my house. BUt then when she's not drunk I love being with her, and when she is drunk I hide out in my room and watch buffy. Sometimes when she's drunk I think "Hey wait till your in college then you won't have to deal with them anymore" and I am only 13. I don't want to leave my mom and dad, but sometimes I want to grow up really fast so I can get away. I love her so much and I think she's just ruining her life by drinking it away. I get so stressed out and I was getting really bad grades, when I had to prepare for my first FINAL EXAMS ever she was drunk all four days. I got so mad. Please someone help me, should I go to counseling? Would they take me away if I told someone that my mom got drunk a lot? Am I depressed. HELP!
ok, personally, unless your mum is abusing you I think that going to child service would be a really BAD idea...your mum has a drink problem, which I am sure you don't need telling!
you said your dads around, does he drink? if not, have you tried talking to him?
often people with alcohol problems don't 'think' they have a problem, or else don't want to, only because when they do, they know they should do something about it. in addition to this, they often drink alone at home, and their need for social contact becomes less and less and they become more 'content' with the alcohol, more importantly, when you drink at home no one really knows, and no one challenges your drinking.
my husbands mum died becuase of long term alcohol problems, she was only 48, he was 24. what your mum is doing is a very REAL problem, as you said you love being with her when she's not drunk.
have you seen the film 'pay it forward'? do you ever watch films with your mum? if you can get her to watch a film, then watch that with her. it's truely amazing. the point is getting your mum to realise that you know she has a problem, will make her more aware of what effect her drinking is having on all of you.
it is very unlikely that your mum will stop drinking if you move away, but, if you speak to her (when she's sober) and say to her you're not lecturing her on how wrong it is etc, but you are just worried and you want her to seek help, she may respond, she may get defensive, but you NEED to let her know you are aware of her drinking and how sad it makes you. tell her that she changes when she drinks and you feel tat she becomes unpredictable..
no matter what you do though hunny, you can't stop your mum drining, all you can do is tell her that you will support her through stopping...alcohol is a very dangerous substance, because it is sold 'over the couter' it is deemed an acceptable thing...when its probably one of the most destructive things available...
I'm sorry your in this position, you can only tell your mum that you don't like what she's doing, and you think that she drinks too much...and go from there, do it when ever she's in a good mood and sober, alcohol is a depressant and may cause her to have mood swings if you say something to her if she's been drinking...
I'm sure she's aware she has a problem, but at the moment, she's getting away with it one day at a time...
AA have a really good support network for family of drinkers, I realise going may be difficult, but maybe, if the timings right, ask your dad to go with you. just say to him that you know she drinks to much, but you need to understand the problem a little more. alcoholism isn't simply a matter of 'stopping drinking', drinking has woven it's way into every part of her life, she probably doesn't function the same sober...
and you appearing like a little ray of sunshine is your way of making everything seem normal, since your home life isn't...and if I had a mum with a drink problem, I would probably keep out of the way too, don't feel wrong to do that...
xx :) my thoughts are with you...
Well you can be mindly depressed, and yes you should try counceling. Your mother is being improper, and shouldn't be getting drunk with a minor in the house, if you like you can call child services, and you would be able to live with another family member or foster parents, and you can see your parents when ever you like, please please get some help, your mother should take some classes too, and please call child services, my mother never called child services, so I suffered long years of abuse without anyone, please do something good for yourself.
you're probably midly depressed. you definatly should try counceling. and your mum should be taking classes. tell her what she's doing is effecting you. ...basically everyone besides andrew97nut knows what they are talking about.
I Feel for you.I'm afraid I dont have any advice but you should listen to those people up there-they know what theyre talking about.
my heart it with you:(
