How to get my life together?

Dear xoxelizabeth92:

I can relate to your situation! It’s hard to be in the midst of an addiction, hiding it from others and keeping up on other priorities. I recovered from a serious addiction … alcohol and have been sober 2 years now and know the process involved is hard, painful and time consuming, but in the end it is worth it. Thelawman is correct, the hardest part is done with, you have seen that your having difficulties managing your life because of a compelling addiction, myspace! When I first seen I had a problem with alcohol, my friends and family also were worried for me! I tried my best to hide this humiliating habit, the most humiliating for me was that I couldn’t manage other parts of my life for instance keeping up with work, paying attention to those that needed me, not keeping up with bills … my pride kept me from asking for help! I landed myself in a recovery home! Stripped of my pride, I was able to be open and honest to those that loved me … and this is what is keeping me sober today. As hard as it is … try to break down those barriers of pride, tell your parents what’s going on .. they are your parents and will be overjoyed your coming to them rather than letting your self sink further and further into troubles! There is nothing wrong with asking for help, as long as your willing to take the steps to help yourself as well … just be you, cause you are awesome …

Good advice and good questions. I agree about having the computer in a shared area, so that anyone passing by knows what you are doing (more or less - they don’t have permission to read what you’re writing, but they do help you to stay accountable for how you spend your time on the computer.) That helps me and all my family, I think!

I no what you mean hun x

I’ve recently moved schools because I got kicked out, I didnt care abwt any thing or any one, I said what I thought and did what I wanted to do! I still pretty messed up!!! but now im in a new school and everything is different, I burst into tears at skwl tdai because I missed my old skwl and friends so bad. I screwed everything up, and lost all my confidence… I was stupid! and the studying went down the drain, I stopped because I though I new it all, and basicali I just couldnt be arsed! I think you should try moving schools or somthing, because at my new school all the teachers are nice and I have a lot more oportunities to do stuff…I like it there.

but youve got to do what you think is best, you can either carry on been a school drop out or get your life back together, at the end of the day its up to you :)

XXX

Dear xoxelizabeth92, Well they don’t understand you but you do understand yourself. You know what your problem is you spend too much time on the computer. You are not alone and should not be afraid to tell the adults in your life. Do you want help or not?? You are old enough to make your choices, not choose what is right…get some help. Where do you see yourself in five years if you continue this way? Where do you see yourself if you were to make better choices. Doing nothing is a choice so do something. Go see your school counsellor, they have information on how you can get help and they can also help. Start reaching out, you aren’t the only one who has gone through this and now you need to stop pretending you are. Sue…good luck

Well this is what your going to have to do is stop going on myspace that much…most people think of myspace as addicting and cannot get off of it just like games on the internet… but you need to think of you grades and how you cannot let other things distract you cause when you are older your probably not going to be on myspace your going to need that job that is going to support you and whoever. just try not to go on myspace that much try to find out things to do… like studying or hanging out with friends or something to get your mind away from myspace.

Right to make it a lot simpler,firstly delete the myspace.Then it wont be there to go on and you wont have it to hide from your parents.You do not have to have a myspace. how did people cope before? Have a clear out of your room and make an affort to keep things clean and organised all the time so your head is clear. Go to the library to study. Once you force yourself to make the effort to go you will do something at least when you are down there. Do something about it before your being depressed turns into actual depression from not helping yourself.

The solution is to first take care of yourself and eat right. In your case that would mean eating lots of red meat. :) (re your post on not eating veggies!!) and drink lots of plain old water (bottled or filtered tap, whatever suits your fancy) when you will eat lots of red meat, and drink lots of water, you will feel energized and happy and you will want to succeed so you will start trying. also make a goal for yourself. absolutely no MySpace, until all your work is done. If being with friends make you happy then pair up with a friend who will do your homework together with you and reclaim your school life by making your learning a priority.

Good Luck!!!