How to tell your mom that you are sexually active?

You definitely need to be on birth control (BC), you’re right. It sounds like she might be okay with it, since she told you that if you have sex, you should be on BC. If you’re scared to tell her in person, it’s not cowardly to write her a letter or email.

I think it would be good to talk to her, b/c if you have emotional or practical worries about sexual issues, you can turn to her. She’s probably got good advice and can help you, even if she does overreact sometimes. And like another poster said, it shows you’re mature and you trust her. Your mom will probably be flattered that you told her.

I think it would be good to talk to her, but if you decide you can’t, don’t let that stop you from getting BC!

Some thoughts: -You don’t have to take the Pill or use other prescription BC methods. If you can go to the store without her, just buy condoms and another BC method. For example, you can get a very thin film with spermicide on it that you insert in your vagina anywhere between 3 hours and 15 minutes before you have sex. Neither of you can feel it. Anyone can buy it- you don’t have to be a certain age or need a prescription, just like with condoms. -Condoms safeguard against STDs, too, more than other BC methods. -If you can go to Planned Parenthood or another family planning clinic, they can usually write you a prescription without your mom’s consent. The Pill is usually cheaper there, too. -Here’s a really helpful link about different forms of BC: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/birth-control.htm -Have you been vaccinated against HPV? If not, ask your doctor if you should, b/c it can protect you against cervical cancer. If you’re having sex, it’s a good thing to consider.

Good luck, and remember, your mom was your age once. She probably has a good idea of what you’re thinking and feeling.

I suggest you only tell her if you and her have that close mother/daughter bond. I was never close to my mom so I don’t know what that’s like. If you don’t, tell someone else. You don’t need her in order to get birth control, you can go to a woman’s clinic or call your doctor yourself. Get on B.C as soon as you can. You are going on 16, time to do things on your own =] good luck!!

You could say, Hey mom, when are we going to have that mother - daughter talk