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How do I make my relationship work with a controlling boyfriend?

OK. So my boyfriend of almost one year is a sweetie. He always takes the time to tell me how much he loves me, but lately (more after we’ve had sex for the first time) he’s been really controlling. He always wants to know where I am, who I’m with, everything. And if I’m with a friend and a guy he makes me feel bad for the rest of the night. For example today I saw him at the end of school, while I was getting my stuff one of my guy friends came over to get something from my locker, he had said something and I laughed/smiled and now he’s making me feel bad right now as I type this because he saw us together and I looked happy…? I don’t know what to do. I love him and want this to work so badly, I just don’t know how to get him to trust me because I don’t like this, its a constant thing and I always have to be on a look out of what to do.

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Answer #1

Ok this is a common things in guys. After you two first had sex, he saw that as a connection. It’s funny, but guys do actually think about this kinda stuff. He now feels threatened when other guys are around because he is scared of losing you- it’s his way of looking out for you. But I know enough about girls to know: they don’t like that. so I feel ya! What you can try doing- is make a compromise-you get to hang with guy friends but text him, email him, just contact him from time to time to let him know what you’re doing, know what’s up. When the girl is gone the guy spends A LOT of time missing her; especially if she’s with another guy. I know from experience how much the imagination of losing my girlfriend to another can be. But it’s up to the guy to trust you-and don’t forget to let him know that. but since this is a compromise, make sure to keep him informed about what’s in your life. try that now; talk with him about trust. let me know how it works out, I just wanna help! :)

Answer #2

You seriously have to keep an eye on this guy- even ask him nicely, but firmly about it. You don’t want him to end up hurting you in any way because you’re too good for that

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