How can me and my boyfriend stop fighting so much?

Fighting is normal. It’s actually scary to see a relationship that has no fighting, because you know that all hell is going to break loose sooner or later, or they aren’t being completely honest with each other and things are happening in the shadows as a result.

Since you’ve been together for such a long time, try remember back to how it used to be like… how did you get along 5 years ago when you started dating? Did you help each other out much? were you just talking always about your devotion to each other? what did you do to make each other happy?

I suggest that you try and make him happy, by giving him a longing loving smile when he gets home and do some little things for him. I imaging you probably feel it’s unfair I suggest you to do stuff for him, but you’re the one asking so you’re the one I give these suggestions, cause I hope these suggestions will help him relax and think less about fighting and notice more your loving and caring for him. It could be after some time he would wanna pay you back and start help you out… You need that fire back you used to have for each other… Both of you shouldn’t expect the other to do something for you, you should do something yourself and eventually something will probably happen… and if not… well then it’s probably a good idea to have a serious talk about how things are going.

I wonder what it is you’re fighting about? how the fights start and so on. I imaging you’re fighting about little stuff, but next time you feel there’s a fighting coming up try and stay calm. If you know you’re right don’t force it on him, cause he will probably feel like you’re trying to make him look stupid, and it’ll make the fighting worse. Be cooperative about an issue, don’t raise your voice, if you stay calm then there’s a chance he will too. You have been together for 5 years… you need to be there for each other, right?

Of cause I don’t know how badly the fightings are or how your guy is like, but I can only suggest you some things I think you could do so he hopefully will losen up a bit and probably will reflect upon it.

I hope you can use my advice, and if so then I hope it’ll help your relationship getting more piecefully again :)