How can I get over being raped?

FIRST OFF…I FEEL FOR WHUD YAH going THRU GURLIE… YEA you PRETTY MUCH WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER WHAT HAPPEND… MI MOTHER HAS EXPERIENCED THIS HERSELF AN SHE DIDNT TELL ENY ONE FOR A LONG TIME… BUT SOMETIMES LETTING THINGS OUT and LETTING SOMEONE WHO you ARE COMFORTABLE TELLING CUD HELP…U SHOULDNT FEEL GUILTY FOR SUIM HE DID…NOBODI DESERVES DIS… WOULD IT MAKE IT ENY BETTER IF HE WAS LOCKED UP?

WELP…I WOULD LIKE FO YAH TO STAY IN CONTACT WITT ME..SO WRITE BAC…

THNX all of u ^.^

you are still letting him rape you everday b.c you are reliveing that time everyday and its affecting you with everything This world can be cold and crewl but only if you want it to be, life is what you make of it, you controll what you think and feel and do, your cousin forced you to do something terrible and that was wrong nothing good about that,and its hard to get over something like that but you are a strong person who carries a lot of pain but do not be ashamed of feeling pain everyone does at at times I think you should talk to someone who you trust and can help you in a postive way there are a lot of bad things and bad people but there are good ones too out there find a nice guy who makes you feel worth something because you are and no one can tell you differnt. dont be scared of this world and people in it, b.c it will get better in time everything will fall into place oneday and one day you will be able to help someone else and it could make a big diffence in their life and you could help them b.c you’ve been through it but focus on your self for now and talk to someone girl,dont let your cousin affect you anymore .and give the right guy some time so you can get to know him,dont just shut them off and assume they want to hurt you right away, try to start off small and ease your way into things but dont right give them your 100% trust at first but atleast give someone the time I am sorry you’ve been though that but it was not your fauglt and you deserve to be happy and see what life is really about I hope you talk to someone and things get better I know its hard but it will ger easyer trust me.

talk to someone you trust about it. this post is a good start.

The next step is to stop blaming yourself. its not your fault, it never will be. Once you can believe its not your fault, then you should start feeling pretty angry about being taken advantage of, I did. I would recommend confronting the person and being excessively loud and angry with them if they try it again. Even going to the point of blatantly telling them that they are raping you their face.

also. you never forget the feeling of powerlessness, self doubt, and humiliation. but there are ways to deal with it. I recommend counseling and doing things that will boost your self esteem. the hard part about relationships after being raped is remembering that not everyone is going to rape you. You have to start believing that you own your own sexual power, not some stupid man. You make the sexual choices you want, and no one else.

oh the same thing happened to me when I was little. you just have ta not think about it.

go up to the guy that raped u. get him alone in a room and start kissing him take off all his clothes or get him down to his underwear. tell him to close his eyes . whether he does or doesnt kick him in the nuts as hard as you can. keep kicking him and torturing him until your satisfied but dont rip his nuts off.

this kind of thing just happened to my best friend last night. I feel like its my fault cause we were getting drunk and I told her to go get some fresh air and thats when he did it. outside. how can I myself get this out of my head. I love her so much and I cant believe this happend noone deserves this.

I had similar experiences when I was around the same ages. First let me just say that NONE OF IT WAS YOUR FAULT. No matter how many times you hear this sometimes its difficult to believe. Second, wether you talk to someone or not (and it is probably a good idea to) you need to find your own inner strenght. Walk with your head up and look them in the eye. If you’re not confident at first - fake it. “Walk like you have big teeth” and they might leave you alone. When you go through this kind of abuse as a child you tend to project “victim” for a long time, because it is what you know. Its not your fault, but you can do things to help yourself now. Don’t project yourself as an easy target or it will happen to you again. When it comes to boys and relationships, it is better to deal with your feelings from the abuse before you try to have a serious relationship with a guy. Right now you might put yoursefl in a bad situation without even realizing it at first. But, once you work through it a little you will become stronger, more confindent, and you will be able to attract (and be attracted to) the kind of guys you truely deserve to be with.

Good luck. :-)