How can I get him to just stay with me?

i have a boyfriend adn we’ve been together for 2 yrs. on off, i love him with all my heart i mean there’s nothing i wouldn’t do for him or anything i wouldn’t give him. he already has my heart but he doesn’t seem to understand how much i love him. everytime we’ve broke up has been because of another girl he has been messing with or i would agree to let him go out and date someone else while i wait for him to come back to me. i know that was stupid and now he thinks he can do it all the time, but i love hating him and hate loving him!! i want him to know how much i care for him and to take it seriously. when we split he calls it friends with benefits and a retirement plan!! i need help

Answer #1

i understand. but sometimes.. u reali need to think for urself. after breaking up, try not to tok to him.. i know its like hell. i went tru it. my bf and i were tgt for 1.5 years and he always attempted and DID step on other boats and i always forgive and things. in the end? we broke up for a long period of time and he was with another girl. after that he broke up wif that girl and came back begging mi to patch. i slapped him. yah, its hard.

but remember.. no matter wad, keep urself busy. if u think of him, think of another guy. make urself have a lil crush on another guy or go out wif ur close guy friend. it feels better i can assure. u just need to get used to life without him and not wif him.

Guys are always like that! they take us for granted. i hate it. even now, my bf lies to mi and he admitted but he didnt tell mi what he lied about so i juz ignored him totally. he called mi and toked awhile i juz said “oh”, “ok” and he said he’s tired and byebye and i didnt even reply, i just hanged up.

its a matter of time. i bet ur boyfriend hurt u so mani times that u feel like ur world is crashing. mine is crashing now and i tell myself not to go near him if not it’ll get worse. i’ll distract myself from him.. its reali hard..

so much tears shed in the end it doesnt solve a thing. so the best thing is to juz let things be. if he’s urs he’ll be. its easy to sae it here but its so difficult to do it.

=( but hey come on. u arent alone

Answer #2

WELL I DO AGREE WITH THE OTHERS ABOVE U NEED TO GET SOME SELF RESPECT LEAVE HIM U DONT LOVE HIM UR USE TO HAVIN HIM AROUND IS WAT U R GET OVER HIM HE JUS LIKES TO HAVE GIRLFRIEND AND KNOS ULL B THERE WEN EVER HE WANTS ONE LEAVE HIM U DONT LOVE HIM

Answer #3

Wake up girl and get some self respect!! He disrespects you because YOU LET HIM! We teach people how to treat us, and by you letting him date other girls, and mess around with other girls, thats telling him its ok to do because you will ALWAYS be waiting to take him back! Thats NOT love hun. Thats obsession! Alot of guys would love to have you as their gf, if they can have their cake and eat it too! You are showing him you arent being serious because if you were..you would kick him to the curb. If you need that kind of love that badly..you are going to be miserably happy for the rest of your life!

Answer #4

I agree with the others. If you’re not happy with the way things are, then you’re in a very unhealthy relationship. It sounds like you already know that things aren’t good, and they need to change.

Live up to your name, onetoughcookie! :) Be strong, and don’t let anyone push you around like that. Relationships should make you feel better, not worse. It sounds like guy uses you because he can. He knows you’ll always be there waiting. So when he can’t find someone else, he can always come back to you.

It’s ok if you can’t forget about him right away. Sometimes it takes time.

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