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my parents have been divorced for about 4 years now. And about 2 years ago my dad came out of the closet and introduced us to his partner. Ever since then me and my two lil sisters have lived with my dad and geoff (his partner) every Wednesday and every other weekend. The problem is that I don’t feel like he’s my dad anymore…he’s not openly gay unless we’re at home, and then he acts like a steriotypical gay guy. We always fite tho, like its constant fighting and it makes me hate him for everything that he is. This is stupid but any help on how to make the resentment go away?

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Answer #1

I know it sucks but he is your father and you shud respect what eva makes him happy… you shud love him any way..

~im kinda a hypocrit tho because my parents are close to a divorce and when ever they say they will I start hystariclly cryin.. im an only child so if they get a divorce I will feel like I dont have a family.. I know how you feel to have your family ripped appart..

just remember it has nothing to do wit you and they will love you no matter what

hope this helped

Answer #2

You obviously resent him for divorcing your mother and having a partnr of the same sex because it ruins the image you had of a happy family with your mother and father being in love. This resentment is best tackled by discussing it with your father and explaining how you feel, it’s always going to be there and as a father/daughter relationship you are both going to have to tackle this at some point, better now than when it’s too late

Answer #3

Yes, the emotional relationship between you and him will decline. This natural, you need a mannish father, not a women-imitator. Maybe later, when this will not be a point for you, you can get together again. But it needs 10 or more years. I think, even if he is gay, he has some inward values. But now you do not see that values, maybe later. So I advice to diverge from him emotionally, but do not cut all the links between you and him.

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