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do I deserve this treatment? =/

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my mom treats me like im the devil’s spawn or something. I’ve never done anything illegal, never sneaked out the house, never smoked or hung out with people that smoke, I try my best in school, I dont even lie. some people might think im not normal. lol. she makes me feel like I owe her something. shes legally blind and she requires a lot of my help, well, a lot of my vision. sometimes I have to take days off from school just to help her do paper work, or assist her when she goes places. I feel like I do so much more for my mother than teens with parents without disabilities. I mean come on, im her eyes. because of her disability she cant drive, and her boyfriend dosnt either because hes legally blind also; greattt =/. he dosnt even like me. he always says it. on the weekends I wake up at 9a.m. and make breakfast, not that I have to, but I want to. I help out whenever I can, which is all the time. my step dad got robbed/assaulted about a month ago and when he got in he was pacing for breath and my mom was going nuts. I cleaned the wound, put ice on it, and called the cops. I left the hospital in the freezing rain to get him a sandwich, it was pitch black outside and im going to get some guy that hates my guts a sandwich…omg. bottom line is, im tired of being treated like everything I do is just expected, and not out of the goodness of my heart. I know so much teens that dont even come home every nite, some of them are in and out of jail, some are pregnant, and their parents give them the world; and then theres me…the stable one that gets the harsh treatment. do I deserve it? plus, if you knew the kinda woman im dealing with, you’d have hidden her meds.

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Answer #1

my mom was just like your mom, and I ended up moving in with my dad when I was 15. no, you don’t deserve this treatment, but what I found with my mom is that you have to figure out why she feels the need to treat you this way. my mom had a bad car accident when I was 6, and every year there after she told me that she was going to die from one thing or another. she was and is on several different meds, and I’m pretty sure that she suffers from ocd among a few other things. I have an older sister who was perfect, so I got the brunt of everything. like you, I never got into trouble or anything, but I wasn’t ever good enough. what I finally decided was that my mom felt like her life was in chaos. she couldn’t function normally, and she didn’t have a life outside of our home because she couldn’t work. she needed an outlet for her aggression, and I was unfortunately it. it seems that you might be your mom’s outlet, but that is up to you to figure out. I agree with earlier statements that you should have a heart to heart with your mom. be cautious of how you word things because it probably won’t take much to set her off. my mom and I had that talk a few years after I moved out, and we are great now. good luck figuring things out k.

Answer #2

well first off, the way shes treating you isnt right she knows shes disabled, she can still use everything she has biuut not her eyes and she should be greatful that you have taken the time out of your day to be her eyes and take care of her and occasionally her partner the best thing you can do is tell her how you feel because she cant see any of your facial expressions, and might not be able to figure out how you feel by the sound of your voice so tell her that out of the goodness of your heart youve wanted to stay and help her you dont have to do any of this but you do and that you feel like your not being appreciated for it what you do can be a lot of work, and she should understand that and be grateful that her child has stayed there for her and helped care for her because you really need to have a good discusion about your feelings and hers to get this problem sorted out

Answer #3

Explain to them, together, that you’re getting sick of their attitude towards you, and the things you do for them. Explain that you don’t have to do the things you do. Maybe they’ll understand. But if they say something like “well don’t do it then”, take a stand for yourself, don’t help them for a while. They need you, they obviously don’t realise how much they do. Get a backbone mate. You don’t deserve it one bit. You seem to be a lovely person.

Answer #4

well first of all, I think everything you have done for your mom if very nice. and you dont deserve the way she makes you feel and makes you do. you could always try to talk to her or get help from other people so you dont have to miss school to help your mom so much, or just go out and hang out with some friends andhave fun away from your mom for a while. you need to enjoy life and live it up to the fullest. well good luck with everything!!

Answer #5

THIS IS HORRIBLE. THEY TREAT YOU BAD I MEAN YOU SHOULD HAVE FUN AND ENJOY LIFE. I UNDERSTAND THAT ITS YOUR MOM AND THAT YOU HAVE TO HELP OUT BUT YOU ALSO NEED TO REST .CAN YOU GET SOMEONE TO HELP OUT LIKE SIBILINS OR OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS.YOU CAN HELP OUT BUT YOU CANNT DO IT ALL. GOOD LUCK!!

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