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I am 23 and have a 8 year old child with my boyfriend of nine years. We were supposed to get married next year however over the past six months our relationship has taken a turn for the worse. We have not had sex since May and have absolutely no physical contact anymore. Due to lack of attention I ended up having an affair for the past two months. (I have never done anything like this before.) Neither of us want to get married however the family thinks we have a perfect relationship and I feel as though I should for my child. I have tried ending it with him however he won’t accept it and I can’t just leave because we own a home together. I know I am still young but I want to do right by my child. Any advise please?

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Answer #1

You need to get your boyfriend and go to marriage couselling if you seriously want to save your relationship asap!! you need to both sit down and work out if this is what you really want, if it is get help and fast! If you dont and continue to stay becos of your child, your child is going to grow up in a home that his/her parents have a broken down relationship and he/she is going to pick up on that and it will effect her, becos most of the time when children grow up and start having their won relationships they duplicate how their parents are towards each other becos thats what they have been raised around, abusive fathers end up having abusive sons, messed up parents end up having messed up children becos they are around this. Your child may grow up thinking its ok to have a loveless marriage, is this the kind of environment you think is best for your child to grow up in? you need to do something very quickly.

Answer #2

Does your boyfriend know about your affair? I hope that if you two really want to work this out that you go to marriage counseling, especially since there is a child involved. Don’t stay together just because of the kid and because you have a house together. Don’t feel like you’re trapped in this relationship. Follow what your heart tells you. I’m sure you both have changed tremendously since you started dating nine years ago, and maybe you just want different things in life now that you’re both older.

Answer #3

Don’t let having a home together stop you from doing the right thing.

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