What is causing my daughter to not like her dad?

I know, I thought it was a little to quick for brandon to get unsupervised visitaton after the first 2 weeks. ( damn courts)

I think your daughter is acting out because of fear. As the above person mentioned, your daughter doesn’t really know her dad. He’s a complete stranger to her. It’s entirely normal for her to be scared and cling to people who she actually knows. It’s also not unreasonable for her to not want to go with him – this kind of stuff has to be eased on to her.

I know we’re not in the same situation, but the kids I take care of first acted the same way when I first starting working there. I was a stranger, and really, I expected them to be shy and scared. I was their first babysitter ever – they were always in their mother’s care.

What she had me do was have visits at her house a few weeks before starting there. She had me talk to her kids, and for the 5 year old, ask about things he was interested in. She also had me have visits where we just had coffee together and the kids were getting used to me just being there. It took a little while for them to come around to me, but this is something that requires patience and understanding. Since your child is young, she will need TONS of reassurance. She will need for you to tell her that her dad is coming over so that she can prepare for it. If he’s just visiting – let her know that he will NOT take her. Tell her that you love her, and that everything will be okay. Just make her feel safe about it.

It will take time, but don’t give up on it. Talk to your ex so that you guys can plan things that will make her more comfortable. If you can, try having him over a little more so that she doesn’t make strange with him. If you can, plan a fun day together so that you guys can work it out. Maybe a day at the park with a picnic or something? You just have to be creative and make the visits fun. It may be a little hard and upsetting for her, but she will adjust in time. Just be patient and don’t take any of it personally. She doesn’t hate her father, she just needs to get to know him.

She is just scared because she hasn’t been around him much. As you and your friends are girls, (I’m guessing here) she hasn’t been around many guys at all. You could try having a get together with some friends and their boyfriends/husbands and your daughter’s father. If your daughter sees you and her father interacting, talking, laughing together- she may trust him more. You are her absolute world right now. She trusts who you trust. At 4 years old she isn’t totally making her own decisions. She needs to see you and her father trusting each other and having ‘fun’. After she has seen YOU trust him, she will be more inclined to trust him herself.

She Is too young to understand. And he does not revolve around her too much so i think that she needs to understand a little more so you can mae that judgement. She does not even know the guy right know.