Break up or Resolve Issues?

Hello,

I have been in a long distance relationship (1500 miles) for about 3 months now. We both fell head over heels in love during the first 2 months and we met in person for 4 days about a month ago and it went absolutely beautiful. We both enjoyed each other and wanted nothing more than spend ever second together. We talk every day on MSN, email and phone and every night on MSN Video so we have probably at least 2+ hours per day together.

Over the last 3 weeks I have been having hesitation about continuing a relationship with her because of character concerns I have about her. I know without doubt she has been dishonest with other people and so I obviously question whether she has been dishonest with me. There are also other concerns I have such as not following through with something she says she will do, financial concerns and other things.

I am sure I know the correct answer: that I should end the relationship, but I battle back and forth in my mind of whether these types of issues could be resolved or not. Of course financial issues and some of the other minimal issues are not of great importance, but integrity and honesty to me is vitally important. I just don’t know if that is something that people can change/fix successfully…assuming of course she would acknowledge it and want to change it. I suspect that she would.

Break up or try to Resolve Issues?

Thanks!

Answer #1

I would break up, but not because of instincts or paranoia or whatever else, but because of the fact that you guys won’t be able to see each other that often and you DON’T know what she’s doing. I would still be her close friend and keep in contact but I wouldn’t devote myself to her or anything of the nature.

Answer #2

Go with your gut instincts here, and keep in mind its only been three months. I think your gut is telling you to break up. It doesn’t sound like the romance of the century…

Answer #3

hey man, you said you know the correct answer. that you should end the relationship. Never doubt you intuition, I am an awsome judgment of character and I trust my instincts. You should too. If you know she’s been dishonest to people, thats a big deal. The way I see it there are only two types of people. People who lie and people who don’t. You won’t be able to change her, no sense in even trying, just a waste of time. And the fact that she’d 1500 miles away. You really have no idea what she could be up to. Trust your insticts, if you don’t feel that she has integrety or is honest. Your probably right. Good luck

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