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Am I trying to replace my son?

Im thinking of getting a reality baby but I’ve lost my son just over a week ago my boyfriend thinks im trying to replace him because im greving and everything and there is a hole in my life since he has been gone does anyone agree to this? Would a fake baby make me play mum again till im ready to move on from casey(8mos)

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Answer #1

well, loosing a child couldnt ever possibly be easy so its understandable why your so upset and why youd like to have something to help feel the space your son left your not really replacing him, because nothing could replace him when you loose a child it leaves a big empty space in you ,and you just want to help fill that space im not exactly sure what you mean by a reality baby, but if your talking about those extreemly realistic looking dolls that are painted to look like newborn babies then yes, it would be a good idea there have been hundreds of women, both women who are unable to have children and women who have lost there newborn children who have got those realistic looking dolls and have theyve helped them so much, when nothing else could possibly help them. because you can still take care of the fake baby, you can dress it, and it looks exactly like a real baby, you can carry it around with you and so on, you can even get one specially made to look like your son if you have a photo of him

Answer #2

Grieving is a process that you must go through.

Pretending it didn’t happen will only make things more difficult for you.

Deal with the child you lost, but don’t try and fill your time with pretending to care for a fake baby…that will only make your mourning time longer.

Answer #3

I have to say. I think this is a bad idea. your going to go crazy and actually pretend this baby is alive. dont do it.

Answer #4

yea I dont think it would be a smart move… you need to get over the hurt and find a way to move on, by buying a realistic doll all you are going to do is create an illusion that your sons death isnt real because you will soon convince yourself that the doll is real. its not going to be healthy for you. I am truely sorry about the loss of your son but you need to find a way to get past this without using a doll or another child… grieving is a good thing, if you dont allow it to happen it may never go away

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