what's the hardest lesson you've leared on love (bf/gf, family, or friend)?

Answer #1

To let guys come to you first and make them work for your love no matter how bad you want them :(

Answer #2

If all the signs point to unacceptable behavior, don’t fool yourself into believing everything is “okay”.

Answer #3

I’d say the same thing as run4love let people come to you first, & also don’t rush things take them slow & steady.

Answer #4

That if a guy cheats once and wants you back, its not worth it becuase he’ll go back. and 2) if he was meant to be in your life, he wouldve stayed.

Answer #5

It’s always temporary…whether by distance, anger or death….the relationship always comes to an end, and that’s why it’s important not to dwell on insignificant problems, but to enjoy what time you have.

Answer #6

the hardest lesson i’ve learned about love is learning when to let go, when to hold on, when to move on and when to love deeper.

Answer #7

the hardest lesson ive learned was dont make him your everything because once hes gone you have nothing :( and begging only pushes him farther :P

Answer #8

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 2 years now and I have learned that it’s not easy and it’s something that you have to work at, every day you can’t just let it be, like a plant love needs to be nurtitured.

Answer #9

love dies quickly.

Answer #10

that the reason guys are so confused by girls, and girls so confused by guys, is actually pretty simple…….. girls always read into things, i know because i do it all the time…. my bf may do something small, like signing off when i want to message him on facebook… when he does it all the time, id assume he didnt want to talk to me or was avoiding me, even though i know he cares…. i would ask him about it later, and hed tell me he just signs on for a second to check his facebook emails, and then sign back off because he was busy….. i read too much into it and ended up hurting myself over pretty much nothing……… guys are the exact opposite…. they say what they mean, and usually are straight forward…. they dont read into to things.. and they dont try to get us to ‘read between the lines’…. yet we expect them to, so we get upset when we think their thinking something…. but arent…. so pretty much, try to always keep in mind that men are simple… be straight forward with them, and dont play games…. your man will love you for that ^_^

Answer #11

People grow apart. My ex wanted me to be happy but when it came to most things he wanted things his way. I wasn’t about to marry him and move to a city where I wouldn’t be happy. He wanted me to be somebody I wasn’t. We had become to totally different people who wanted too totally things out of life. You need to find someone who loves you for who you are and who you want to be!

Answer #12

You’ll have an argument eventually, it won’t just be for 1 day, it can go on for more than 1 day. Talking to the girls’ parents to get permission to date her WILL be very nerve wrecking if you’re not prepared. Things will get a bit more difficult as you get further into the relationship no matter who the couple is.

Answer #13

To never ignore your friends, family etc about the present guy your dating, even if you’ve been with them for ages, years even it does not make a difference. If that friend is responsible and knows what their talking about most of the time then take their advice. I was blind for like 2 years of my life when i was dating a guy. My family and friends were not keen on him at all and i just blanked their opinions out. Take your friend and family’s opinion into account!

Answer #14

tht it takes u thru hurdles jus to make ur luv stronger

Answer #15

i dont agree at all with colleen. i think that something you love is something you wont give up on. it cant end if you dont give up. live your life not for wondering what will come to an end, but for making sure you surround yourself with the people that you love, knowing that you lived your life to the fullest.

Answer #16

when i was 14, i lost my virginity to someone who really didn’t care about me. he cared about “it.” Over the years i have struggled with coping, and have realized that i shouldn’t chase a guy that doesn’t even like me for me. :(

Answer #17

I don’t think she meant to dwell on the possibility of something ending. She just meant cherish the time that you spend with that person, and don’t let “petty” differences ruin the time. Every relationship must come to an end. Its not a matter of giving up on it, sometimes things (like death) just happen and its out of our control. Sure, they’ll always be in your heart blah blah, but the relationship itself as it was no longer exists.

Answer #18

Don’t rush into things. Sex, touching, anything. Let everything happen naturally. But even if it feels normally, and feels like the time is right, wait. I know it is contradictory (going against itself) but when you have sex to early it can make everything about sex. That was my problem. I am actually trying to change my relationship from being all about that. And it was all cause we did it “When the time was right”. Sorry if that was a rant. O.o (:

Answer #19

The hardest lesson I had to learn, was to let go. My ex cheated on me multiple times, but I put up with it because I was in “Love”… didn’t help that she knew how to push my buttons. But I got to a point where she became a person I despised. I kept making excuses for her….. so mine is letting go and severing ties.

Answer #20

MM i learned that love makes u blind and makes u do the craziest things and stupidest lol and that even though u really love some one doesnt mean they love u back even if u think they do

Answer #21

tht helpd me atleast lol

Answer #22

tht helpd me atleast lol

Answer #23

most defently dont rush into it and the single life is so much better we are young we dont need someone to make us happy flirt around and have fun dont be ready to get married at 13

Answer #24

that yuhh cnt always plz evrybody

Answer #25
  • love is like the wind, when it blows by, it’s so refreshing, but it doesn’t last long.
Answer #26

naw… that wasn’t a rant at all, i totally get that and was at that spot earlier this year… what made us stop was cause of our jobs a making dates with our own friends - so whenever we saw eachother, it was all the better!! (since we’d miss eachother)

Answer #27

i truly like this!! it sent lite a lightbulb to my head :)

Answer #28

i absolutly get that… it’s crazy how pre-teens and teens are so eger to find their soul mate at such a young age… it ruins friendships, family and life all together once you’re blinded by lust!

Answer #29

i tottaly feel for you!! i was like that with my first bf!! funmail me if you want to know the story! - it’s truly one of the hardest lessons i went through!

Answer #30

it’s confusing… i’ve delt with that after my first heartache (how to let go) i kept on trying to fix things (didn’t know how to move on, and whe i was in a new relation i was a mess and didn’t know how to love, i was too scared to fall in love cause my first relation was a tie of physical/verbal abuse… and man was he a two timer!!

Answer #31

That cheating and lying to your bf/gf never works out and it always bites you in the ass, so you just don’t cheat and always be honest. Don’t get in a relationship unless that is exactly what you want as well which plays into the whole cheating and lying thing…

Answer #32

True and yet sad. The story of my life.

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