Is my boyfriend just trying to marry me for a greencard?

Answer #1

We met two weeks ago and we just started dating. Hes 22 and hes from kenya. My dad told me that he just wants to get to know me and then marry me just for a green card. Could this be true? I really like him and he says he likes me too.

Answer #2

Yes, this is entirely possible and you should take it into consideration and weigh things out. Don’t do anything if it seems funny.

Answer #3

If you’ve known him 2 weeks and he’s already wanting to get married yes it’s EXTREMELY possible.

Answer #4

No he desnt wanna married but im just wondering bout it

Answer #5

You want us to tell you what is going through your boyfriend’s mind? It’s possible. Or maybe the guy just likes you. Seriously though, if you’re already having issues (I dont suppose your father has any issue with his race?), maybe time to leave.

Answer #6

yikes..my friend met a guy from sudan and same thing..they did get married and he was using her there are also some pretty big cultural differences between them that made it extremely bad situation but that is only one situation.

Answer #7

Honestly, yes it is possible. Nobody can really say for sure if it is true or not besides him. I don’t recommend asking him though, haha if it isn’t true you could upset him. I think you should just listen to your heart, just because your father “thinks” this, doesn’t mean it is true. I don’t know your father but he could just being trying to get this into your head because he don’t like the guy, whether it’s his race or his beliefs, or just attitude. He might just be concerned/afraid. Just take the relationship slow, this way you will be able to find out if this is true. If you guys are together for a while (over a year) and he isn’t pushing marriage, then I think you won’t really need to be concerned with the issue anymore. But if he starts pushing marriage on you, then that will be a reason to suspect something. :) I hope I helped a little bit. GOOD LUCK!

Answer #8

Could be true. Don’t rush into anything and be sure you actually love him before even considering marriage.

Answer #9

you have to trust your heart. love takes chances.

Answer #10

you have to trust your heart. love takes chances.

Answer #11

my advice is to, see if he really likes you like if he dus thing nice for you, if u can see if he truly cares and wait a wail befor u get married and try not to rush in to thing becuse the last thing u want to do is get hurt.

Answer #12

honstly its possble

Answer #13

i dont think a person should be deciding to marry after knowance of them for only 2 weeks, it could be true, it might not be true, just keep your eye open for any indication that could show that all he wants is the green card, and let him be a little longer

Answer #14

Wellz jus be careful id say watch how he acts nd trust me dnt think just because u guys last like 2 years he isn’t because my father dated a girl who stayed with him for like 5 years nd all she wanted to do was marry for a green card so jus be careful kk

Answer #15

your gonna get married because you like someone? Im young but thats sounds a little off…I mean if your gonna marry someone you should be in love with them and if your gonna marry him after only 2 weeks thats insane

Answer #16

Get to know him for more than 2 weeks before you get married…I would wait at least a year because of your situation where he could just be trying to get a green card

Answer #17

well does he have his green card? and to be smart about it you guys need to be dating for like 3 years tops maybe 2 i would say 5 just to see if your good for each other.. green card or not there is no need to rush.

Answer #18

i kinda feel bad 4 u bcuz my mom wud tell dat 2 my sister 2 n she felt like my mom just thought sum1 wud marry her for her papers i think u shud try dis guy out its kinda mean like just cuz u kno sum1s illegal u bring dat up wen dis guy hasnt even mentioned marrying …u have 2 kno everythings possible but if dis relationship is gunna work out n u really like him u have 2 not only think hes in a relationship 4 dat im not telling u to discard da possibility but idunno i think not all people r da same…good luck =]

Answer #19

in that case see if you could get one of your friends to flirt with him carefully and sexually and if he falls for it hes either trying to get a greencard or hes cheating on you most likely trying to get a green card caus eif someone is trying to get a greencard they will try to get it from almost anyone availible.

Answer #20

but not dangerous chances if the danger otu weighs the reward then its not worth it duh

Answer #21

but not dangerous chances if the danger otu weighs the reward then its not worth it duh

Answer #22

Like hippiepeaceprincess said, it really does make sense that all he wants is a green card, since 2 weeks are kind of a really shot time to truly be in love with someone enough for marriage. But who knows? Maybe he does really love you. My idea is to try and play with this topic a little. Try putting obstacles to his way, checking if a green card is really all he wants. I.E. what if you had a (hotter/cuter/more beautiful) friend in real life and you met her to him? If all he cares about is a green card, he wouldn’t really mind just picking the hotter/cuter/more beautiful one. That’s just one example. Try finding more ideas like these to see if he really cares about you… Oh here’s a better idea: what if you asked him “So, how are you gonna get a Green Card to get here? :)”. If a green card is all he cares about, it might take him some time to think of an answer and he’ll perhaps be kind of shocked. I hope you’ll discover the truth and good luck. :)

Answer #23

my boyfriends parents got married after only knoing each other 2 weeks and they’ve been married almost 25 years.

Answer #24

Forget this whole question. We broke up

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