How can I tell if he's playing me?

Um straight up player. He’s playing you, once he has you in his bed one time he’ll be done with you. He hasn’t had s^x in a while and is more than likely wanting to be with you in that way and then never again. Please stay away from this creep. This situation can get really scary. Take my advice hon, say your goodbyes and depart. There are better fish in the sea. This one is a shark. Maintain abstinance until your honestly ready and have been with a man you know you’ll want to marry some day.

He will say anything YOU want to hear, if he can get what he wants from you. Any guy who just wants you for sexual purposes, without a commitment, is a player! Tell him your not a boy toy, and you dont want to be his friend with benefits either. This excuse so many guys use that they just dont want to get into another relationship because theyve been hurt in the past. Thats fine, but then they dont need to prey on some lonely girl, just to satisfy their needs! He is only using you. He doesnt care about you like he says, because if he did, he would respect you, and not take advantage of you! Friends DONT kiss, or do other things!! Dont fall for anything he says. If he wants to just be friends..then tell him, >hands off<!!

1. He is hot and cold in the relationship. One minute he is professing his love and attraction to you, and the next minute he’s no where to be found.

2. He does not answer your phone calls, emails, or texts within a 24-hour period.

3. He will only see you on certain days of the week and will NEVER deviate from those days.

4. He will only call you during certain times and will never deviate from those times.

5. He will never introduce you to his family or friends.

6. He will not openly share his emotions with you.

7. He is very vague about past relationships.

8. He tells you that he’s always busy with work, school, or other activities that allegedly take him away from you.

9. He looks very uncomfortable when he is seen with you in public. I believe that men who play games are fearful that you will run one of their ex’s, or worse yet, a woman OR women that he is currently seeing/sexing.

10. Your gut tells you that you are being played. I have learned from experience to trust your instincts.

Player’s are hard to spot. If they were easy, none of us would be in this predicament asking ourselves, “Does he really care about me?” The most important thing is to go with your gut feeling. If you keep asking your self the question of whether or not he is a player then he most likely is. If you REALLY like him and have that gut feeling, you will find your self making excuses for him, defending his actions, and find any reason that makes it seem like he really might just be a genuine guy, even though you have one positive against numerous negatives.

One thing to look for, is his words. He will make you feel more special then any of his female friends. He will whisper sweet nothings, telling you he wants to see you, he wants to hold you, he misses you, he wants you there with him. Anything to make you feel special and wanted. It’s a way of buttering you up, tricking you into thinking that he genuinely cares and has deeper feelings for you. He will say he is in no shape for a relationship right now, which in a sense is true, because all he want’s to do is move from girl to girl.

He is a smoothe talker. He has done this SO many times, that it is natural. He has come to believe his own lies, so he doesn’t ever feel guilty, or see anything wrong with what he is doing, or how he is acting and treating you. He isn’t feeling any emotion, even though he is giving you every indication he is, and you are really special to him.

He will make you feel like you are making a big deal out of everything, when in-fact you are not, and have every right to be upset with him. He will turn the situation around on you, leaving you feeling hurt, upset, and as if you really are making a big deal out of something that you have every right to speak up about.

He will tell you he will call you or text you, when he actually has no intention of it. When you make plans to see each other or hang out, he will cancel last minute. He will ALWAYS have an excuse, and it will always seem reasonable, even though it really isn’t. If you tell him that he always does it, he will tell you that you never really actually make plans, and you are over reacting. He will make you feel guilty for acting this way.

You will go long periods without talking. Long enough to wonder why he isn’t talking, and to wonder what is up, but short enough that you will figure he really was “just busy”. You will be so happy to just talk to him again, that you will forget everything negative with him that has been happening. He will always have an excuse. He is ofcorse, a smooth talker.

If he really cares about you and wants to be with you, you will never be questioning his actions and motives. You will just know. Don’t find excuses for him, you deserve somebody who loves you and will make all the time in the world to see you and be with you. He will want to talk to you on the phone, take you on dates, make and keep plans, and make you feel special all the time. Not just from time to time.

Now, not every guy who act’s like what I described above is a player. Like I said, if you have the gut feeling and always question it, then hes a tosser. You should never have to guess if someone cares about you or not.

okay I get where your coming from except im datn the guy he makes out with me then leaves and he ignores me all day and flirts with other girls when im around he even pulls up girls shirts but the hole thing you need to do is striaght up ask him is this just a playing round kinda thing or what and if he doesnt answer within 24 hours unless he has a totally plausable reason hes totally playin you and trust me get outta there dont give him one hint that your still interesed or ever were