why gals are like this?

May I ask…Why in such a rush to find a life partner? I think this arrangment from your parents with this new girl may be only a rebound girl for you after your recent breakup. It’s not wise to get so involved with somebody new soo fast ….you need to give yourself some time to think and regroup…clear your head…you really are not in sound mind to be finding somebody new so quickly. I know people who went into a rebound ( meaning they didn’t have any prior contact with a totally new person….not the same if they have know the person and may have been the reason for the break up) These guys went crazy over the new girl for the first month then realized they were single again and just left the new girl with a broken heart because the realationshiped moved too fast and then died. So my suggestion is to back off this new girl…Ok to talk to your galfriend..but let her know you really don’t want to get involved with anyone seriously now cuz its your time to breath. And…you are still in shock about her feelings for you…and never expected them…be honest and tell her at the moment and maybe always because of the already preset relationship you have had with each other that you don’t think you can see her as a romantic partner….and you would feel best if she has such strong feelings for you …that maybe during your time which you are planning to give yourself that it would be best if you saw less of her. Tell her she is a great girl…has a good head on her shoulders and you admire her openness with you…but you feel space is need for both of you.

Im sure she, your parents , and the new girl and her parents will understand you need some time to yourself because it hasn’t been that long since you broke up with your last gf..and you want to be fair to all…I’m sure they will understand and respect you for this descison to wait before starting a new relationship. I think they would understand and view it as a very mature and respectful descision.
Good Luck!