Why do my family give me a hardtime ?

My family make comments about me that realy get me down, they always think the worst of me, they laugh at me beacuse am not cleaver and they say alls I do is cause trubble just by being there with them. “/ they realy dont no what they make me feel like. Over the christmas I had a big argument with my dad whilst he was drunk and he told me he never wanted me to be born, this realy hurt me becz he knew what I was going threw with loosing by bestfriend and a week later my auntie died. People say he didnt mean it becz he was drunk but he always said it evan when he wasnt drunk. They always seem to have more time for my older sister becoz she is pretty and skinny and that just makes me feel ugly and fat. I moved in with my mum a month ago and when I come to vist my dad they are evan nastyer with me, they sit and call my dead auntie allkinds and that makes me realy angrey, I just want to go asleep and never wake up help !!

Answer #1

Poor doll, I hope things get better soon. Usually people lash out because of their own insecurities. Thats no conselation to you right now, but you just gotta know that what he’s saying is not true, he’s lashing out. If your living with your mother leave him be. Maybe right him a letter explaining that his comments are hurtful to you. I.e. when you call me fat it makes me feel horrible and small. If he can’t see the error in his ways just take a step back, you dont need that kind of abuse

Answer #2

Your mom is not giving you a hard time is she?

So just stop going to your dads and see how they feel after you have not shown p. And when they ask about you tell them everything that you have been feeling and see if there is some sence into them.

Answer #3

Have you talked to your mom about it? Maybe she can go to court to make it so that you do not have to go there for visitation. I know it’s hard but some times, some people, even your own family can be cruel and there’s nothing you can do about it (at about changing who they are. Only they can decide to change.)

What you describe is straight up verbal and emotional abuse. You really need to talk to someone that can help honey. Talk to a guidance counselor at school or see if there are community programs for victims of abuse. Often the more damaging abuse a person can get is not the physical but the emotional and psychological. It’s far harder to heal from those.

Just don’t fall into the trap of believing them. Know your own worth and value it no matter what anyone else thinks.

Answer #4

Woww.. Maybe live with someone who does not say them things about you

Answer #5

I just think you should realize that you will be older one day & have your own home where you will make it a wonderful place full of love and kindness.Don’t let people get to you…(EVEN YOUR OWN FAMILY) remember they are human beings & we are a race that has a lot to learn. You will then get to choose who is part of your life… When I was younger & I saw all the problems in my own family all I could think about was that one day I would be older & I would make my life what I wanted it to be…& I did…I have my own place with my own kids & husband…Take it easy, all people have problems & hurt…Take it ONE DAY AT A TIME…BIG HUG! It will all get better…It always does.

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