Why do I find it hard to cum?

K well I have this issue where I come so close to climaxing then I cant seem to finish. I am not in a relationship so sometimes it is a new person, so I sometimes get a lil shy. Seems like no matter how hott I get I just cant climax. I have tried doing the clitoris stimulation but after a couple seconds it actually starts to hurt me more than pleasure me. To the point I actually swelled after. :( I just really want to orgasim, and am not sure what else to do.

Answer #1

The key to climaxing is to be comfortable. It’s a lot harder for chicks to climax than it is for dudes and some women rarely ever climax.

Part of the problem might be that you don’t feel comfortable enough to climax when you are with people you don’t fully trust, which is understandable. Also what might help is making sure that you are wet and being gentle with yourself. If there is not enough wetness in the vaginal area, there can be way too much friction on the clitoris and that is what would cause the swelling.

My advice would be to spend a little time getting to know yourself. This way you can be relaxed and you can find out what does and doesn’t work for you.

Luck and be safe

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