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Why do I feel soo bad ?

  • Well my boyfriend ( we weren’t going out at the time but , were friends w/ benefits ) Had sex with a girl while I was away in another country having trouble w/ my mom leaving me there and dad betraying me .

And one day I told him something bad and than he went out with this girl for a day in a half and than had sex with her . And now he regrets it and doesn’t even talk to the girl anymore unless she says hi bc he doesn’t want to be mean or rude .

But what do you say ? Am I stupid for letting him back in my life ?

Bc I really love him and don’t want to loose him for no reason ..

He was there for me all the time , Calling me everyday , and never let me down until that day he did that . He still called me everyday after that and told me he missed me and wishes to take that day back .

But , we promised to loose our virginity’s to each-other and than he went to do that . That was his first time .Now I feel so horrible like it was my fault , all I do is remember that day and I feel so bad . I can’t even look at that girl . My friend was part of it but ugh . I’m confused . Plzz Help .

Am I stupid ?

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Answer #1

Your not stupid I’ll tell you that much. You loved him a lot and what he did really hurt you. I think its important that you decide if you want to stay with him after what he did. They’re things to weigh in, he pretty much defined the word cheating when he slept with that other girl. I think you should wait a bit till you go back and do anything with him. You should let him re-earn your trust so you can truly see if he really wants to be with you after what he did. Give it time, time heals everything at least thats what I think.

As for the virginity part. Thats up to you if you still see him as a virgin or not. In theory he did lose his virginity to another girl but did he lose his virginity out of love?

You shouldn’t feel bad at all it wasn’t your fault it was his for not waiting for you. Its true that love can make you feel awful but its not your fault at all alright. Just remember that he isn’t the only guy in the world and if he fails another one will step in in his place alright.

Answer #2

I dont think your stupid at all, love makes you do crazy things. and if you said something bad, he still did it on his own you didnt make him do anything. dont beat yourself up over something he did. but if you truely believe he loves you and you know you love him. you’ll both make it work

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