When is it the right time to have oral sex?

you should not have sex until you have done everything else. take it slow. ask him how he is going to do what he is going to do. it will make you less nervous. start off with fingering (outside of your vagina only). make sure there is an understanding so that when you say ‘no’ or ‘stop’ he does so. eventually, move on to fingering inside your vagina. then to eating out, and so on. if he says you dont have to please him, then dont if you dont want to. I am a guy, and to just say that it kills me lol so I will tell you what the guy opinion is. if he says he wants to just please you, he means it. however, I have been in this position before. I was please my girlfriend for 5 months and got nothing (because she was very selfish). it KILLED me to do it. it got to the point where I didnt even want to do anything anymore. I didnt even get an erection anymore when I was pleasing her. at first, for the first little while, he really wont mind pleasing you and getting nothing in return. but after a few weeks, you will need to please him otherwise he may stop, or at least not have any fun at all. a guy has to be able to expect something in return in order for them to be happy doing stuff to you. (it doesnt necessarily have to be right away, but as long as he knows that he will eventually get something) I would say be open to it and at least give it a try. it is not the end of the world. people do that all the time like its noting. sexual activity is supposed to be fun. not some sort of emotional, traumatizing breakthrough. it all depends on your mentality (one thing I hate is girls and guys who want to wait to do anything until they ‘find the person they will be with forever’. the reason for this is because those people aren’t living. it is actually unhealthy for someone to only have sex or do anything with just one person. it is proven that people will live unhealthy lives, argue more, and be more encouraged to cheat if they only do stuff with one person). it is fun, and I would highly recommend you start trying stuff. I hope I helped! =)