Whats the big deal...?

I don’t see anything wrong with falling in love with someone older. (So long as it’s a legal age.) I’m not a big fan of finding someone over the internet, simply because you don’t always get the full truth out of someone. But if it is true, and your feelings for this person are true, then I wish you the best of luck, no matter what the age is.

As for the age difference - it depends on what ages the people are. If you are over 18 years old and you fall in love with someone is who 20 years older than you - it’s not a big deal. It may be looked down upon - but it’s legal so it doesn’t matter. If you are under 18 - it’s disgusting and the person should be locked up for taking advantage of a child.

Also, you can NOT fall in love over the internet. Love takes more than just talking and feeling connected with the person - you have never even met them - so how could you be in love. Sounds more like infatuation to me.

Maybe this person is uncomfortable that when faced in public there will be some ridicule and this person wants to avoid that. Yes, online love is very possible. My husband and I met online and we have been together 5 years and very happy in our marriage. He is 10 years older than I. I don’t know what I’d do without him. He’s definately my true love.

There is a difference between finding someone that you love on the internet - and never meeting them and saying you are in love.

No doubt both are possible - it appears by your question, the person 18 - 20 years older believes the other person is immature and doesn’t know real love - ‘only through the net’ again is possible but I don’t think normally realistic…Take care !!