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What should I do about my over protective cousin?

My cousin is so overprotective! I ‘m doing really good in school and he always asks my friends if I ‘m doing good in school and at sleep overs he calls me every 30 mins. he won’t even ket me get in a fight like if one of my friends and I get into a fight and not talk he gets mad and I get in BIG trouble! HELP, do I say for him to lay off or tell him nothing

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Answer #1

Set some boundaries. He has no right to talk to your friends about how you are doing. You need to talk to him about respect. He’s not respecting you by disbelieving you and calling your friends. You also need to tell your friends that they need to politely tell him to talk to you about it, and then say goodbye. Talk to your parents. It’s like he’s trying to be a parent and he has no right. As for sleep overs, talk to him before you go. Explain you will be with your friends and will not answer the phone until the following day. He can only contact you in an emergency. If he calls, politely tell him the same thing, and stop answering. If he calls your friends, ask to speak to him, and tell him the same thing. And seriously, get your parents involved. This is way overboard. As for the friend thing. What do you mean you get into trouble. Politely tell him that this is between you and your friend. It is too bad he is upset, however, you dont want to discuss it with him. If he shouts or whatever, ignore him. Listen, I know people can seem scary at your age. But when you learn that in reality they have no power over you, you kinda are able to back away. Shouting is unpleasant, but think of it as a 3 year old having a temper tantrum. Not so scary anymore? As for hitting. If he tries, tell him you will call the cops. Really, we’re taught as kids to respect and fear those older than us. I think respect is important. But only when we are respected back. He has no respect for you and you need to set your limits. Listen, by standing up for yourself, you’re not going to alienate him and cause all sorts of family drama. And even if you do, so what. Families are great because in a few days they’ll move on. And you wont spend the rest of your life being afraid of your crazy cousin.

Answer #2

yeah it sounds like he really loves you lol.

maybe you could start sharing your accomplishments with him, like if you got a good grade in class, ring him and tell him about it etc. it would make him feel loved and he would feel as though you are coming to him, as opposed to him having to nag you.

at sleepovers, you could txt him and say ‘hey we are going to watch some movies so im turning my phone off love you’ or something and turn your phone off so you arent disturbed all the time lol.

Answer #3

I would tell him to lay off. But say it politly.. like it sounds like he really loves you. but you should definetly just tell him gently you would like to have your own independence and that you dont need him to be lookingg over your shoulder all the time and that you can take care of yourself about friends and such. But tell him that you’ll still come to him with problems that you think you cant handle so he still feels secure. And about the sleepovers maybe you can compromise? Ask him not to call you but have you call him 2 times a night while at sleepovers? And if you dont remember to call that gives him permission to call and check up on you that time?

Answer #4

You have indeed a really strict cousin. Yes, this shows he does love you and that he cares about you a lot. But if you really don’t want him to keep being overprotective on you, talk to him. Tell him, say something like this ‘(your cousin’s name), I just want to let you know that I really appreciate it when you look out for me and care for me. but I can’t always let you watch over me.’ ALSO, tell him that you will still do good in school and to be safe in whatever situations that he may think it’s not safe. But still, tell him to look out for you, even you don’t want to.

Answer #5

give him a hug and a kiss and tell him you love him so much for caring about you! Respect yourself always and he wont need to follow you around. Until then your stuck with a guarian angel!

Answer #6

just do what I did and tell him tha you can handle your friends and you want him to look out for you but you need space

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